Getting Callbacks From Hot Girls
By V on Nov 28, 2007 in Quotes, Ramblings
The question, “I get the girls number and call her. She doesn’t answer, so I leave a message, but she never calls back. This happens a lot. Why don’t girls call me back?”
The simple answer: Cause you suck.
You suck at standing out in her mind.
Attractive girls give out their number(s) enough times that they can’t deal every guy who calls them. The guys she doesn’t bother with are unknown guys and guys she wants to make unknown. If she dealt with all the unknown guys then she wouldn’t have time for anything else.
When you open a girl for the first time you are unknown to her. Quickly going after her number, having boring conversations, looking at her breasts the entire time . . . makes you a guy she wants to make unknown.
How do you go from an unknown guy to being a known guy? You have to get inside her head.
When the girl thinks about you then you stand above everyone. Once she has been thinking about you on a daily basis then you are pretty much guaranteed a pick-up/callback.
Starting out I would ask for a girls number. As my game developed I improved my odds of getting a pick-up/callback when phoning a girl.
Now I’m confident enough in my initial game that I only give out my number.
This is a basic breakdown of my initial game:
1. Open with something stupid (i.e. “I can has cheezburger?” or “¡Hola! ¿Usted sabe dónde puedo encontrar una tienda del condón?”)
2. A.S.L. (Ask open ended questions, shut up, and listen)
3. Discuss adventure (i.e. What is the wildest thing you’ve ever done?”)
4. Discuss sex, but play hard to get.
Depending on the time allotted to the initial conversation I may only get up to #2, maybe even just #1.
In situations where I can only get to #1 it’s all about confidence and how I hold myself. When getting the girls number in such situations you need to call/text her a.s.a.p. Fires die quickly when there is but little flame.
Get in the girls mind and you’ll get in her pants.
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V, since I started added your feed, I’ve become very impressed by your writing. You are an inspiration to those of us learning the PU art (or at the very least, me).
Cheers,
snachodog
V -
Your method reminds me of Juggler, especially with the open-ended questions bit.
I think that sometime you should consider writing a post elaborating on steps #3 and #4. I don’t know the first thing when it comes to talking about sex, and I could use some more help with talking about adventure.
I recently got a girls phone number, Here is the scenario, she works on another department on my company and i only saw her on the sidewalk, open up with a cheering smile and a comment like Hello Cinderella, and Started talking about how this work place suck, then told her i had an Aunt that actually had a better job in a Pharmacy (her Interests as Med Student) and told her I would talk to her then give her a call back, I haven’t called her yet cuz i want to know how to take it from there to a date.
I was thinking about telling her a fake meet up but is there shomething better on your mind? Thanks!
Mike
First you talk negative about her choice of career, then you offer her the possibility of a “better” job without asking for anything?
You need some “assistance” before progressing any further with this girl.
You can e-mail me at v ///[at]/// becomingapua.com if you wish to discuss things in private.
V
Hey V, just out of curiosity, what blogging software do you use for your site? I kind of like it and was thinking of getting into blogging myself. Thanks.
that’s very true. I should get start to put in action. Get the girls mind.
Another way to help her remember you is to give her a nickname of sorts.. that way when you leave the message you can say “Hey {insert nickname}” Atleast she’ll put a face with your name
A key when you suck at remembering names.
V
Hey V. I enjoy these kinds of posts a lot. I know it can’t even come close to mimicking actual field experience, but it gives us a little tidbit to help us feel more confident in the field, much like a playbook for a sports event.
Could you go a little more in-depth on step number 2? I can’t speak for others, but small talk is where I usually lose the girl’s interest or just go blank. It really is difficult to break out of the “where do you go to school? what major are you?” routine.
Thanks.
I may go into this further in a future post.
V
Yeah, I run into that problem… a lot! Actually, most of my trouble (right now) is meeting women and standing out in her mind.
On body language what do you recommend for approaching? Is eye contact and leaning back that powerful for approaching? Because while I don’t stare at her breasts or any other part of her body (that’s something I learned since a while ago) I yet still have some trouble looking at her eyes directly, and sometimes I end up talking looking at other place or something…
Eye content is essential to show your confidence.
I’ll choose not to use eye contact to give off a shy guy appearance if appropriate.
You do not need to lean back. Stand straight.
If you do look at “another place” then don’t try and hide it like a pussy.
V
Hey V.I am a 23 years old ordinary Chinese student in China.I’ve been reading meterials about PU through the net for about a year. You are the forth one who gave me a mindblowing shock after Mystery,Tyler Durden and Tucker Max.
Like you, I’ve read a lot of books about NLP, self-help,body language, pickup such as The Game,MM,GWM,David D ,and i’ve just finished the book The Secret which is also a great one.
Just as what you said in your previous post, my knowledge of PU has reached a high level, my self-esteem and confidence become higher, but I have never really start approaching girls. I know I shouldnt be afraid of approaching, it’s no big deal, but I just cant go to the street and start approaching. Instead,I would go to some place I am familiar with such as the gym to keep me in the comfort zone.
I know you have made great success and are making progress everyday, and I admire you for your determination. I am here for your advice.
1)Are you get to this point all by yourself?I dont have any teacher of friend who can teach me about PU,what advice can you give me for learning pu alone?
2)DO you have any advice on how to make thought into action?
3)I think the first approaches are the hardest, what advice can you give to help me overcome the first difficulty?
Thank you!
ChineseZZ
Which NLP book do you recommend for a beginner?
A recommended introduction book would be An Introduction to NLP Neuro-Linguistic Programming by Joseph O’Connor.
V
ChineseZZ,
This is too long to answer in comments. Hit me up on e-mail [v (a)/(t) becomingapua.com].
V
hey V nice post … do you have any good openesrs or good open ended questions, if so would you post some or email them … thanx
Give me a shout at V ///-@-/// BecomingAPUA.com We’ll discuss the type of guy you want to be, and the type of girls you want to attract.
V
Good break down of quick phone game…thanks!