Here are the answers to questions asked on yesterday’s post.

beauty hunter asks:

I have two questions V

1. Do you think that workshops and seminars are neccessary for becoming a pua, and what is your point of veiw on that.

2. How do I join in the Becomingapua network?

1. No, workshops and seminars aren’t necessary to become a pick-up artist.

2. If you want to join the BecomingAPUA network (have your own personal development blog) then send me an e-mail describing what your blog will be about. My e-mail is V [removethisAT] BecomingAPUA.com

Victor asks:

1.- How did you lose your shyness to approach girls anywhere?

2.- Where do you take girls when you ask them out?

1. By realizing that life is a bunch of B.S.

2. I take girls somewhere that’s not out of my way and doesn’t cost me anything (i.e. school class room, mall, my house, park, their house . . .)

Dan Blakeman asks:

1. Did you start out having a daily regimen to get progressively better?

2. And if so, what was it?

thanks man! you’re an inspiration. Keep it up!

Dan

1. Yes.

2. I determined what I had to do to become the person I wanted to be. I then broke that up into daily, weekly, and month assignments.

Jhonny asks:

Hey V, love the blog!

1. how would you go about approaching a girl that works at a coffe shop, or at a restaurant.

2. do you feel that picking up is a assertive process (whereby one makes things happen and pushes the action to move forward, sexual or otherwise.) or would you say its a more relaxed process where you have to take the maximum of the opportunities that come your way? I know that both are true and not true.

I ask then because picking up can be a frustrating process and I often wonder if it should be. Should i be trying to ake things happen or just relax be myself and take it as it comes.

Thanks Brother!

1. I’d first find out if she enjoyed her job. If she did then I would keep conversations short and to the point, building up attraction, so that customers didn’t get upset. If she didn’t like her job then I’d strike up a conversation and keep it going until I got her number.

2. It’s all about perception. People love to follow (which is why we have a government). If you have a stronger belief of what will come, then others (hopefully hot girls) will follow you to that future (sex). I know what I want, but I come off relaxed so that I don’t make the other person uncomfortable.

Jackie O asks:

Hey V!

1.I am crazy about this girl at a cafe and I dont know how to ask her out. and not feel cheesy about it…. i know its all in my head but I find it difficult to get over that

2. Do you feel that smoking pot is detrimental to ones game?

1. What makes that one cafe girl special from the rest? Is she an actual gift from God? Probably not.

If you go to the cafe all the time then take things slow, and get her to find you fun to be around. Enough so that she asks if you want to hang out. If you rarely go in then shoot the shit and get down to business.

2. I don’t do drugs so I am unable to answer that question.

Gurtrude asks:

Can you provide some pics of what you look like in these different styles that you described? For example you said you went through a james bond phase, but I have a hard time imagining you wandering around a college campus in a suit so im not sure what you mean.

This is an example of something I wore during my “James Bond” phase -> http://timesnews.typepad.com/photos/uncategorized/daniel_craig_reuters_photo.jpg

My university has a business program, so it’s not unusual to see someone in a suit.

Here is a punk-business example -> http://2007.sxsw.com/img/panelists/Halcyon_Styn_John_07.jpg

My current “nerd” look is similar to Rainn Wilson’s look -> http://msnbcmedia.msn.com/j/msnbc/Components/Video/070323/x_sec_n_scar_rainewilson_070322.300w.jpg

Sharp asks:

I’m interested in this question, as well. Do you take Peacock Theory into consideration?

I do agree that you need to stand out. I prefer to stand out in subtle ways that the more attractive girls will notice (i.e. nice clean shoes).

Wednesday asks:

In your post about getting hot girls to call you, you mentioned the 4 steps to your game. (Open with something stupid, A.S.L., talk about adventure, talk about sex.)

I’m a fan of Juggler, so open-ended questions are a big part of my game. Do you think you could elaborate on your method a bit more?

The talking about adventure and sex are what I’m especially curious about. Asking something like “What’s the craziest thing you’ve ever done?” and having my own story prepared would help, of course. But what are some of the other things you talk about “in between” normal chat and sex talk?

And for the sex talk, how do you express interest while “playing hard to get?” Do you just talk about past experiences while clearly not coming on to her or what?

Between normal and sex talk I’ll joke around (i.e. Chuck Norris facts -> “Chuck Norris was born in a log cabin that he built with his bare hands.”), find out what her ideal boyfriend is, what she’s eager for in life, if she wants to give me a strip search to show I’m all real and all man . .. OK I’m just kidding about the last part . . . or am I?

For sex talk I’ll throw out blunt shit but keep a straight face. During our regular chat I’ll say jokes but keep a straight face. When I then say something blunt (i.e. “Lets get sweaty. I’m talking sauna sweaty”) with a straight face she won’t know if I’m joking or not. This allows her to picture us getting sweaty in her mind while not sounding perverted, cause I can just say, “I’m joking.” if she gets freaked out.

Nomail asks:

Your goals sound great and liberating …

Would you mind mentioning how much time you invest in what you do … I rem reading something about 6-8 hours of walking around a day … so how many hours a week? etc

Do you ever just get jack of it … or are you at the point where its just part of who you are … where you see people as people you think might be interesting instead of just picking up …

I have traditionally not picked people up … but think I understand a lot of the concepts … and used some before with out knowing it … but these days I cant be bothered partly from fear of rejection / wanting acceptance … and partly think I am not genuine … so I shouldn’t start … but I know .. “Its only saying hi” etc

Thanks for your response.

I devote every day to discovering myself and the world around me. I spend around 6 around a day to picking up women. Multiple 6 by 7 and you get 42 hours a week.

I do not get sick of it. I’m stuck in this world, so I might as well figure out how it works and take advantage of it.

You’re not genuine? Nobody is genuine. We all smile when we don’t want to, we say, “I’m good” when we feel like crap, etc. etc. etc.

mackell Ross asks:

What is your number one prioriteies in life, because it is hard at times when you have a busy schedule to get girls, do you put your prioriteies first when it comes to get girls or do you let girls knock you off your course at times?

I am my number one priority. I never let a girl come first in my life.

Cyrik asks:

do you have any tips on keeping conversations alive? i sometimes have the problem that my conversations just die after the opener, if they dont give me any hooks in their answeres(opinion openers). i know i could just go into some story/routine, but the transition just feels strange/forced.

Don’t appear like you want to keep the conversation alive. If conversation feigns then focus on something else. This puts the cause of boredom on her. If you can’t even get past the opener then learn some funny facts. Throw those facts out and see if she’ll pick up the conversation.

If she doesn’t pick up the conversation then avoid her. You and her are obvious listeners. If you can’t become the talker then it won’t work out between you two.

Francher Meeks asks:

What changes have you noticed about yourself from when you were an afc compared to being a pua. Are you still the same person but now you just get out of yourself more?

I am becoming the person I was born as. No longer am I the person society forced me to be.

ChineseZZ asks:

The book “The Secret” says:

“There is no time, whatever you want in the future already exists. It takes no time for the Universe to manifest what you want. Any time delay you experience is due to your delay in getting to the place of believing, knowing, and feeling that you already have it.”

What is your understanding of it?

If you know EXACTLY what you want, and nothing will stop you from getting it, then you’ll get it. But once you have everything you come to realize you need none of it.

Sharp asks:

Hope you have some time to answer my questions, as well. Thanks in advance, even if you don’t.

Do you feel race has any influence on your game? Like, when you see an Asian, Indian, Black, etc… do you become more/less likely to neg, comfort longer, and so on? (This also includes their group, like if it’s a bunch of a certain race, as so often happens out in the field).

Also, do you feel that I (as a Chinese guy) would have a disadvantage approaching a Caucasian girl? (I do remember reading about Papa in “The Game,” but no details about this ‘touchy’ subject were revealed).

I apologize in advance, if I’ve burst anyone’s bubble, but these are real concerns that I have after reading all these books. Seeing Spoon fall out of the running the first week on that VH1 show really discouraged me.

Thanks All,

All girls to me are the same. Pussy is pussy.

Race for others is a factor, because of stereotypes. It’s difficult for a Chinese guy to overcome the bombardment of stereotypes. If you overcome it with a Caucasian girl, then you’ll have to deal with her friends, family, and society. If you’re both high in self-esteem then you’ll be fine.

Dan Blakeman asks:

Nother question>>In general, do you consider picking up girls difficult?

peace out.

Dan.

No, because I enjoy picking up girls.

Edgar asks:

Hey V,

I read in one of your posts you always use protection because you “don’t trust girls”…

Fair enough, and I totally agree,

but do you muff dive?

Cheers

I’ll only muff dive a girl if she tests clean at the local health clinic.

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