My Alone Game Before & Now
By V on Jan 7, 2008 in Bars, Exercise, Ramblings
Sequoia asked me to do a post on my alone aame. I will do that, but first I recommend you check out his awesome alone game post on the Forums.
Since beginning my pick-up journey I’ve gone out by myself. Because I don’t have a car, I have to find another form of transportation. I could befriend people for rides but I don’t like the guilt that comes from doing that.
My mode of transportation, when weather permits, is my bike.nI’d put all my nice clothes/shoes/goodies in a backpack, bike downtown, and change behind some transport trucks. When I bike to the bars I’ll bike home from the bars, but with solid numbers. I don’t want to be spending $20 a night on cab fare just to bring a girl home for sex.
Since it’s winter I now borrow my dad’s car.
When I started going out I was awkward. I was shy, but I wanted people to feel excited around me (bad mindset). I found that by wearing some clothes that REALLY stood out would help, but if the night was slow then I’d look like a clown just walking around the bar, which would often happen. When I did see a girl I liked I would put on a big retarded smile, approach, convey that I’m important, and all this other crap. That would leave it to HER to make the ultimate approval decision. Fuck that.
My attitude now is “fuck it”.
My “fuck it” attitude wear consists nice dark jeans, dressy top, nice dressy shoes, hair in a professional manner.
I’ll drive downtown and warm my voice up to some music. When I go around the downtown/bars I’m calm, cool, and collected.
I know the bar/night patterns enough that there will always be a girl for me to approach. When I find a girl I like I will approach her, but I take the situation as a factor. If that means I have to open a set beside her before approaching my target then I will.
I’m not at the bar to dance around and entertain people like a jester. If I just wanted drunk sluts then I wouldn’t be learning pick-up. I’m there to find some great girls to bring into my life. If I have to entertain them, or convey myself that I am “important” then they’re not so great.
So that gives you an idea of how I approached my alone game before, and now.
If you have any alone game questions for me then just comment here.
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I have no car, so I walk or bike downtown; Rain or shine. I enjoy walking so its no problem since its a 20 minute walk. Also, it gives me time to think. And girls don’t give a shit that I have no car, they are attracted to me, not to my belongings. So I proudly tell girls I have no car and its a good disqualifyer.
Yes, the “fuck it” attitude, this really is needed when alone gaming. If I get any anxiety about being alone, I take a mental check in and tell my self: “Its me against the world”. Any other attitude will fuck you up. Look, I dont PUA to win any awards for being a kind, friendly, suplicative, quiet, nice person. I PUA to fuck hundreds of women. I am out and about because it is me against the world (It really is. AMOGs, friends, AFCs, HBs, they all want you to fail, well, until they see how cool you are). In truth, I have a lot of allies that scream my name in joy when they see me downtown. Due to many nights of being social with the regulars, bouncers and bartenders.
My big sticking point is talking to sets inside. The bars in my area are wanna be clubs, the music is loud as fuck. My game is often dependent on listening to something said by a stranger and then going in and owning the set. When its so loud I find it hard to start an interesting thread.
I think I need to do more side sets like V mentions. Pick up is different than Natural game. Pick up is more like chess. To get the hottie, sometimes the PUA must open side sets and set the room up for the win. Indirectly causing the desired outcome.
V, thanks for the help.
Sequoia
“If I have to entertain them, or convey myself that I am “important” then they’re not so great.”
I like your rejection of the typical exchange frame.
This post is impressive!
Can you tell me something about the day game?
How do you do a day game?
How many approaches do you make?
What the mindset of the day game?
Great post about going out alone. I’ll admit I had a REAL hard time with this area when I first started. In fact, it’s still hard for me to go out in the evening if I don’t have a friends around. For some reason it’s easy to approach when you’re alone during the day, but at night it can feel awkward if you let you think too much about it. Anyway, really like the forum post from Sequoia.
It seems hard but with the attitude of “fuck it/ me against the world/ I will fuck up for 2 years straight then move cities, I’m too young to not make a fool of myself” its not bad. More importantly, hind sight 20/20 its fun.
Today in class I asked buddies how was break (1 month long)? “It was too long, got bored, I played beer pong, blah, blah, I was bored …” I am thinking wow, what if I didn’t put my balls on the line and AG all month long. This guy would be me. I’m thinking break was too short, I wish every night was Friday night, I wish break was another 2 months, I love going out alone, no more boring nights, I feel really independent (I now understand how V can not need/want a GF). Stick to it and you will love it.