Getting Over Yourself
By V on Jan 19, 2008 in Exercise, Quotes, Ramblings
One thing my friends and I can’t stand are people too into themselves. They tend to have the belief that they are somehow better than others.
Those types of people, and there are many of them, don’t understand that they are just like everyone else; an organism functioning in an environment. They are NOT a “personality”.
The issue with most is with the way we think. We don’t know how to stop the way we think. When you get a burst of emotion, rather than letting it flow, you’ll suppress it. When you accomplish something great, you won’t pat yourself on the back, you’ll be modest or “Thank God”. When you think and behave in that ill way you maintain your personality.
“When the wrong man uses the right means, the right means work in the wrong way.”
-Old Chinese saying
A basic mistake for beginner pick-up artists is that they’ll confuse the system they’re using (i.e. Mystery Method or Speed Seduction) with the actual world. It’s similar to people who confuse money with wealth; they work hard to make a lot of money and then they don’t know what to do with it.
We confuse ourselves, living organisms, with an personality. That personality could be the one society has forced upon us or one we’ve given ourselves.
What I understand as “V” is not really me. The image of “V” doesn’t have all the processes that make up me as a whole. Was my brain constructed to contain the concept of “V”? When I say, “My name is V” I do not make the mistake that I AM “V”. If I did then I would generate confusion with myself. It’s like saying you can wrap a present with the ozone layer. The ozone layer a nice concept but you can’t do anything with it.
Most believe that the personality exists. From a young age we’ve been told what to do, even if it was against our own interest. Those external forces created tension with our internal forces. So that feeling of tension has been fastened with the concept of “I”.
How can you give up your personality? Well the personality doesn’t exist. In order to rid yourself of the it you have to let go of the tension.
When you remove the tension you become aware of everything inside as well as outside of you; the blood flowing through your veins, your breath, the trees moving with the wind, and the hot chicks walking right by you every day.
By being aware you realize your body is able to adapt, both internally and externally.
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any tips on letting the tension go?
Everyone is the same, but different. Contact me with your situation and we’ll see about eliminating some of your tension.
My e-mail -> V //at// becomingapua.com
V
A lot of the ego-driven mess that comes from being overly invested in a certain personality can be dealt with fairly easily.
Most people are ego-driven and feel like they must accomplish certain things in order to be considered “worthy” - which leads to feelings of distress and heartbreak for themselves and those around them.
One good approach is to celebrate the accomplishments of everyone. It’s worthless to think, “that person accomplished something that I didn’t, so now I feel bad.” If you are celebrating the accomplishments of others with the same fervor that you would use to celebrate your own accomplishments, there will be less of a need to protect the ego.
V, I celebrate all of your accomplishments. Bravo sir!
well said bro!
How very zen and buddhist! I agree it is good to be like this, _but_ in every other post you say a person should have a goal, and strive towards that goal, because people (and girls in the case of this blog) admire that and think you are great for having one and doing it. Reaching a goal then, and being proud of it, is normal. And if you don’t know what to do at that moment, find another goal.
The first rule of zen if i understood it well, is “no want.” Can you both shed your personality (i do believe i have one, i am me) and strive for goals? Ponderation time.
I don’t like people who think they are the world’s greatest either, but they are mostly confident people. Don’t say “it’s a faked confidence, so it’s bad,” because to get confidence, you sometimes have to fake it first. If you smile even when you’re sad, you’ll cheer up. They act as if they are better than you, because maybe they in fact are, or because they challenge you to stand up for yourself. If you let them walk over you, you lose. You’re suggesting to ignore them and walk away. A valid strategy, but it’s what every beta-man does, isn’t it?
In my opinion, you can’t “let go” of your personality. You can change yourself though. The question is: why would you? Because you told us to? Because the way you currently are isn’t good?
Why am I a “beta-man” for walking away from a egomaniac?
Look at black belt martial artists. They would rather walk away than fight. Why? Cause it’s a waste of their time and energy to fight an egomaniac.
I say you can let go of your personality. Look at your great actors. They are able to give up their personality in order to portray another’s personality.
I’m not telling you to change yourself. That is for you to decide. If you like your current life then fine, stay that way.
V
Ok…so this is a seduction blog, not a philosophy course. Can you guys use plain english here, th enuts and bolts, the how -to’s…?
Let’s concentrate on the specifics please.
You’ll never be a master of the game if you just learn rational steps.
V
I agree with most of the concepts in this piece, and can see the objectivity in it. I have to point out that a statement like “Most believe that the personality exists.” you will in my opinion take away from that objectivity and influence persons who do not have any grasp of what is being offered to them. Perception is key; what ever you believe is your reality, most people do not think, period, and will accept what ever is thrown at them. All I am suggesting is that you take some measures to prevent as much as possible forcibly influencing such persons and instead try to encourage them to think for themselves…Teach a man to fish…
Toabgo.