Justin asks:

Hi V,

I wanted to ask you - what is your approach to the game?

I wasn’t sure of the right way to phrase this question, so I will elaborate. When/where/how do you meet women? What are your ideal situations for approaching women?

For instance, I might see guys run into traffic to cross a street because they see a hot girl, and then tell them “you are fucking sexy”. Or, I might see a guy jump into a limo with a bunch of hot girls in it. Or it might be something less spectacular like walking up to a girl who is walking down the street. Or it just might be going to clubs.

Some of the ways guys in the community approach girls I feel are inappropriate unless there is something about the girl that you absolutely have to meet her regardless of the consequences of the inappropriate approach. I feel like there are so many girls out there that completely going out of your way to meet someone, running across the street or otherwise, is unnecessary a lot of the time. I feel like a lot of the time, being “normal” can get the girl, and trying to be
spectacular will actually make her not want to see you again. What are your views on this topic?

Thanks.

J

Hey Justin,

I meet women wherever I run into them. I used to plan out my days in a robotic fashion, but I prefer to be myself and not a robot.

I do go out to bars during the ideal times (Thursday, Friday, and Saturday), but I do whatever I have to do during the week (i.e. go to the mall to buy some crap, go to the book store to get a book, go to the grocery store for some groceries, etc.)

There are women EVERYWHERE. You just open your eyes and your mouth.

There are A LOT of nut jobs in the pick-up “community”. Many of which are developing future nut jobs.

Here’s a video of one of the “respected” idiots (Alex from Real Social Dynamics): (Update: I guess this is a parody.)

Sure you can do some “crazy” things like running across the street to meet an attractive girl, but that’s just to expand your reality. It doesn’t mean you run across the street every time you want to meet a girl.

The whole point of this journey, if you want to call it that, is to find who you are, not to copy some idiot from Real Social Dynamics or some other cult-like pick-up business.

If you are happy with your progress then keep doing what you’re doing, if you are at a plateau then try some “crazy” shit to break through that plateau.

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If you have any questions my e-mail is v [at] becomingapua.com