I read through some of your blogs and really enjoyed them. The short of
things is, would you like to contribute articles to our website? Perhaps
something like that could be utilized on our website. Please read more
below.

I’m the Marketing and Events Manager for Kizmeet and HurryDate (our parent
company Spark Networks is widely known for JDate and MingleMatch).

Our current traffic is very strong and of course we’d like to make it even
stronger. Through our very intensive marketing efforts we’ll only continue
to grow. We have advertisements on some of the largest love related
(dating, networking, mingling) websites in the world: JDate.com and the
MingleMatch.com companies, as well as the ubiquitous HurryDate.com.

Please go to Kizmeet.com and take a look through our “Press” section, and
you will find a myriad of fantastic press coverage from many different
mediums — very notably “E!”. We’ve also begun a vast number of guerilla
marketing initiatives, internet marketing, and more PR campaigning.

What we’d like to do is create another reason for people to come back to the
website — articles. The articles will be based on love, relationships,
dating, flirting. The “dos and don’ts”; the “how tos”; the “was he/she
flirtings?”; and whatever other great ideas come up.

The website offers a practical online way of searching for missed
connections, but it’s also enjoyed for the entertainment of reading other
people’s posts. Some people find the posts absolutely adorable, some people
find some of the posts to be humorous.

I’d like to find out if you’d be interested in cross-marketing. That is
sharing each other’s traffic; sharing each other’s content.

The increased traffic and the Kizmeet notoriety should help you secure
advertisements if that’s what you’re seeking; it certainly should help you
secure wider popularity as well.

Let me know if this is something that you feel can benefit your blog/you.

Sincerely,

Jason Hobbs, Marketing and Events Manager

No thanks.

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If you have any questions my e-mail is v [at] becomingapua.com

Mr. Anthony Stark asks:

Whats up V,

Just read your Jul 21 post and decided that it wouldn’t hurt me to start being proactive in my personal growth (and that includes using all available resource, like you.) I stumbled upon your blog way after you stopped being a AFC so I started reading your posts in chronological order. Unfortunately there are a lot of posts.

So I was wondering if you were starting out today as a AFC wanting change, where would you begin (read, do, etc.) ?

I already decided to kick up my hygiene (flossing), work out, and I’ve read The Game and David Allen’s productivity book Getting Things Done.

I think you’ll recommend The Wisdom of Milton H Erickson and The Superior Man, but what other books do you recommend?

Respect,
Mr. Anthony Stark

If I was starting out . . .

1. I’d get out of the television and get back to reality. They call it television PROGRAMMING for a reason. You are not Tony Stark. You are NOT Iron Man. Try just being you rather than pretending to be someone you’re not.

When you get this mindset that you’re something you’re clearly not then you get delusional. When you get delusional then no one wants to be around you.

When it comes to delusional look no further than Ross Jeffries (the guy sports a Green Lantern ring . . . ). Once you find out Jeffries’ tricks, which are pretty good, and that he’s pretty much in this community for the money then you move on to better people and better things.

Here’s a clip from the movie Network. It does a good job at explaining the power of the television:

No computer will ever match the power of your brain. No human could never recreate the human body from scratch. Rather than marvelling at your own body you aspire to be something from Marvel Comics?

They say most people only use 10% of their brain. I’m willing to say that most people use 0% of their brain. Much of society are given patterns to follow; they go to school to learn the pattern of 9-to-5 and they watch television to be be given patterns on how to behave (i.e. what’s appropriate to wear, to be politically correct, what to eat, etc.).

Do you want to LIVE your life (thinking and analyzing life) or do you want to be just another walking dead (just following the approved pattern given at that moment)?

2. I’d get out of being labeled. When you say, “I’m an AFC” then you’re saying that you’re a frustrated chump 24/7. When you say, I’m a PUA” then you’re saying that you’re a pick-up artist 24/7.

You’re an AFC at the moment you’re buying a group of unknown girls a round of drinks. You’re a PUA at the moment you’re leaving the club with the most beautiful girl there. It’s only at that moment when you’re those things.

Do not label yourself when you are trying to figure out who you are, cause you’re just boxing yourself in.

3. I’d work at keeping myself healthy. Your health is most important, both physically AND mentally.

Learn about appropriate nutrition, figure out your budget, and buy what you can afford. Treat yourself to what’s “unhealthy” every once and a while, cause you’re human.

Study Ericksonian techniques and NLP to learn about manipulation and persuasion. This strengthens your mind against the bombardment of manipulation by people, television, advertising, etc.

You are the gatekeeper to your own mind, so protect that mind of yours.

That’s more than enough for you to work on at this moment.

Your life is for you to decide, so start making decisions before someone makes them for you.

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If you, the reader of this post, have any questions then send an e-mail to:
v [at] becomingapua.com

The moment we begin to fear the opinions of others and hesitate to tell the truth that is in us, and from motives of policy are silent when we should speak, the divine floods of light and life no longer flow into our souls.
–Elizabeth Cady Stanton

A common question I get is, “When is a girl giving me a shit test and what do I do?”

OK. Here’s an example and what to do in such a situation: When your target is drunk, touching her right hip with the forefinger on her left hand and asks “Hey, I just puked a little on my shoe, can you lick it off?” you tell her, “Right away master!” and lick away.

If you take what I said above seriously then I recommend you go stay home tonight and masturbate.

Understanding what shit tests are is important for new guys. If you don’t know what a shit test is I suggest you check out the Common Acronyms & Slang section at the Becoming A Pick-Up Artist Forums.

Once you’ve been around enough girls then you could care less about shit tests.

Say a girl gives me a shit test such as, “Buy me a drink”. I’ll tell her, “OK.” and I’ll get a glass of water. If I hand it to the girl and she refuses the water then I’ll take the water back and drink it.

If she is pissed about the drink and gives me a hard time then I’ll take her by the hand, say, “It was a pleasure meeting you.”, turn away from her, and open the closest group.

If you want to be an asshole all your life then refuse every shit test.

I accept or deny shit tests depending on the moment. I know when I’m being tested, but the girl can’t quite tell if I’m supplicating or if I’m being that “perfect” boyfriend.

She knows that I can leave her at any time, cause I tell her, but in a “nice” way. If she does give me a lot of guff then I’ll escort her out of my life. I just make sure to get a little loving before giving her the boot.

It was a delayed announcement cause I’ve been snowboarding all yesterday and today. I rule the bunny hill!

Now I gotta get my sore ass back out tonight. Anyone know how to cover-up the paleness around my eyes where snowboarding goggles were once placed?

OK. March’s contest will be $100 of anything from Amazon. You can choose pick-up books, lube, a dildo, or whatever else may float your boat

I am often asked what cologne I’m wearing. My reply is, “I’m not wearing cologne.” Why? Cause I don’t wear cologne.

The “nice” smell girls get is from either my shampoo or hair wax.

I do have cologne (Le Male, Acqua Di Gio, Emporio Armani, and Burberry Brit for Men), but I just don’t wear them. Though they do smell “nice” I find that it takes away from my “game”.

Cologne takes away from my game in three ways:
1. It gives me a headache
2. It can bring up memories, consciously or subconsciously, in girls
3. Most importantly, it takes away from my natural scent

Part of attraction is biological. So why on Earth would you cover up your natural scent with a cologne?

If you take showers and wear some antiperspirant then you don’t need cologne.

It’s sad how some guys think that “the best” cologne can get them the most ass. I highly doubt that P. Diddy wears around his cheap $30 cologne to parties.

Don’t get me wrong, smelling half-assed does have a factor when getting close to a girl, but I’ve met guys who’ve got ass without having a shower for a few days.

Keep the sprays to a minimum if you have the mindset that cologne is important, but remember that anything external has little to do with great game.

Daniel Rose is considered to be an expert of sex in the community. You should only learn this material only when you’ve mastered all that comes before it. If you have mastered the material before the sex phase then read on

Notes

What matters in bed?
- Sexual confidence

- He wasn’t always sexually confidence. Started out alone, played Starcraft to take away the pain, but that pain didn’t go away.

- In 3 months went from barely able to talk to girls to 3 girlfriends. Felt like a phony cause he didn’t have the confidence to back it up.

- Felt that giving a gf multiple orgasms would make all the anxiety go away.

- Wildly experimented. Went through so much rejection then finally found the patterns and giving girls multiple orgasms

4 Things A Woman Needs In Bed:
1. Dominance
a. She needs to know she’s with a man
2. Emotion
a. Women are very emotional
3. Variety
a. Too much of a good thing is a bad thing
4. Immersion
a. Relaxing, lack of insecurity, totally confident.

Biggest problem
- Sexual arrogance, male ego

Average amount of guys that are good in bed are 5-10%

Everybody in this room should try to improve.

1. Dominance
- Never ask for permission in bed
- Dominance requires balls. Guys don’t have the balls to dominate
- How can you be dominant?
i. Manhandle
1. handling girl in a dominate way in bed
2. Door slam – if making out, push her against the door. Sounds dramatic though door gives way.
3. Spanking shows dominance. No hesitation. If you spank a girl, spank it very hard. Key to spanking is doing it hard.
4. Be creative with manhandling
ii. Dirty talk
1. best verbal way to increase dominance
2. Themes
a. Possession – sometimes a girl wants to think she belongs to you (i.e. “baby your pussy belongs to me”)
b. Telling her how much she wants sex.
i. Once you get really good in bed you see how much girls want that great sex
ii. Key is to know in your heart, girls need great sex (ie “I know much of a slut you are.”, “I know how much you want sex”)
3. The first time you do this will score you shitless

2. Emotion
- girls also need emotion
i. sex with a girl is so much better than some random girl
- First theme to emotional talk
i. Connect sexual pleasure to strong emotions (i.e. “Baby you came so hard for me, you must really love me”)
- You have to immerse yourself in the sex god character fulltime
i. You have 5 seconds to reveal your sexuality
ii. Sexual vibe could be bad cause she may not want to have sex with you.
- Talk about how girl feels for you. Talk about how you feel for the girl. (i.e. “Baby I love being inside your pussy.”)
i. Knowing is a very different thing from doing

3. Immersion
- Sexual endurance & can’t getting it up deal with immersion.
i. Coming too fast – don’t distract yourself. Relaxation overarousal. Relax your body, relax breathing, and remove any negative beliefs
- Immersion, relaxation, no-limiting beliefs
i. Then you can last as much as you want.
- Lack of thoughts/fears/insecurity
- Nothing on your mind but sex
- Positive thoughts in bed are just as bad as negative thoughts (i.e. do you jack yourself up to eat corn flakes?)
- Just do it, no positive or negative thoughts
- Think nothing.
i. I.e. tantric master
- Make effort to consciously cut off thought
- Lack of thoughts, insecurity, fears
- Come from consistent limiting beliefs
i. One limiting belief is that if a woman doesn’t appear to want to have sex she won’t. A woman hates being rejected, 1000 times more then men.
ii. As you progress you’ll see subtle cues for her hornyness. If it’s not limiting for you, it won’t be limiting for her, cause it just wouldn’t make sense
iii. Interpret failure into a new belief
iv. Good technique way to improve immersion is eye contact cause it’s difficult to think of new things
v. Trains self to hold eye contact during sex
vi. Remember: Too much of anything is bad thing

4. Variety
- Mix it up. Not wanting to do same thing over and over. Always be creative. Key is spontaneity.
- Not about altering angle, or position.
- We have plenty of ideas for variety, just sexual confidence to do it.

Who doesn’t know Zan Perrion? If you don’t know Zan then you don’t belong in the community. The guy is a modern day Casanova, but he considers himself a modern day Voltaire. Here are his notes on getting women:

Notes

- Why do we hesitate when we see a pretty girl walking towards us. We want to walk up to her and say, “Hi, I’m _____.” Why do we not do that? FEAR OF REJECTION.

- We are afraid she’ll reject us as a man. We feel she’ll validate our manliness.

- We’re conditioned. It hurts to approach.

- We could all draw, sing, etc. when we were four years old. In school we compare ourselves to others that we are not good enough.

- Everything you want, everything you desire is outside your comfort zone. If it wasn’t, we’d already have it.

- No matter what the girl says we turn around and say “I’m not tall enough, rich enough . . .? She doesn’t have to reject us. We’ve already rejected ourselves.

- We allow her to live rent free in our heads. We allow her to dictate our day.

- We’ve already rejected ourselves, she’s just agreeing.

- Most girls ask, “What do you do for a living?” to find out what we believe we are.

- We have the right to say hello to her. We are men. We stand on the earth.

- When asking girls, they say “Where are all the real men, men who believe who they are?”

- What kind of girls put men in LJBF (lets just be friends) zone? Trick question, we put ourselves in the LJBF zone. In the way we talk, stand . . .

- We feel, especially in North America, that we can’t show our sexuality cause it’ll make them uncomfortable.

- Women are desperate for men who know who they are, what they want, no resumption and how dare we take that away from her.

5 Categories Women Put Guys In:
1. Guy is giving me a creepy feeling
2. Completely indifferent
3. Guys nice. Friend zone
4. This guy is potential. Potential relationship
5. I could jump in bed with this guy

- He tells a girl right away what he wants, “I’m not like any man you’ve ever met, there is something about you, though I don’t know what it is.”

- Without neediness/clinginess

- You have a name and you didn’t think you have the right to talk to a girl?

- In your direct bloodline your relative carried a sword, and you’re afraid of talking to a girl?

- Women want men to approach them as sexual creatures.

- How does a woman know you’re honest? By telling them you’re honest. “I’m not going to just be friends with you, why look at you?”

- Guys who are good with women are cause they are at ease with themselves. We get to choose

- Opening line isn’t key. It’s approaching. You can never love women if you don’t love yourself. You can manipulate them but not love them.

- Women will only feel cheated if you misrepresented how long the relationship will be

- The goal is to have women as friends in your life.

- NEVER KISS AND TELL, cause it’s respect. You don’t have to worry about your reputation, but she does.

- The whole concept to him is that if you misrepresent yourself, you’ve cheated her (i.e. buying her affection)

- If a girl says, “Are you asking me out?” You say, “Of course I am, look at you.”

- Girls want guys who know what they want.

- LEAD! NEVER FOLLOW.

- It’s stating who you are without apology. Stand in your place.

- All women are your girls. You make that girl shine, cause that’s who you are.

- If they look hot, it’s a gift to you. Make them feel pretty, and they’ll never forget you

- Zan never approaches a woman with a goal of getting her on a date, #, etc. His goal is he likes pretty girls, you’re just in the moment with her.

- A phone # voluntarily given to you will mean she’ll answer

- Trust the process. The fact you know you’re a man. Cause you have the right

- Never respond to their challenge. They are fantastic at acting offended. Just say, “What are you talking about?” Laugh it off, play it off.

- Never dial yourself down. It’s your mission to make them feel beautiful.

- We are driven by our obligations (i.e. more money)

- Be pulled through life by a vision of what you want

- You don’t have to do anything

- Women like nice guys, cause they are so attentive.

- They don’t like clinginess of guys.

- We have no interesting life cause we choose not to. Never let a girl push you backwards.

- You’ll have women in your life if you believe that and it’s your choice.

- Decide today who you’re going to be, don’t cheat women out of it. That’s what women want in men.

Story
- He mentors guys all over the world. I don’t know how to escalate into sexual mode. He doesn’t do anything cause he’s there from the beginning. Cause he lets them know who he is. She’ll say, “I have a boyfriend”, you say “Of course you do, look at you.”
- When he talked to an engaged girl he knew she couldn’t go out with him and she knew he couldn’t go out with her, so he said, “I know, but isn’t it fun to think about?: Make her feel pretty and smile. You’ll get girls giving you #’s and begging them cause you make them feel alive.

- Respect them and have fun.

- I.e. “You look great in that dress.”

- Never defend. If she says, why did you leave me to talk to her, say, “Of course, did you look at her!?”

- Everything you do with a woman should be enormous fun. Smile and wink at everyone.

- Don’t be aggressive and presumptuous. You have to be sincere. ALWAYS BE HONEST. But always lie, but get caught in the lie. It should be fun, fun for you and her.

- Women are able to sniff out your motives from afar.

- Never mask your desires, without presumption.

- Doesn’t mean you’ll sleep with her, but emit that sexual energy.

- How do you break up with a girl? He never breaks up with a girl, he’s just not around

Two Tracks In A Woman’s Mind
1. Her desire for security, comfort, longevity, safety, children.
2. Just as valid and just as cirtical to her living. Passion, whirlwind, romance novels.

- Ideally she wants both tracks from one guy

- If she just has 1 track, she’ll seek out the 2nd track. It’s nature.

- Zan is a dreamer. He believes in women, and makes them believe in themselves.

- Women crave romance novels as much as they crave water and air.

- Take a woman on an emotional adventure. Cause everything in life is an adventure. It’s the concept of believing in adventure, cause they will too.

- Start with your intention. You won’t apologize for who you are. You have the right to be who you are.

- Why is it so important that the interaction is important? The opening line isn’t important. The thing that gives him the most fulfillment is the interaction with every girl. If you make the moment important you will get phone #’s and you will get girls wanting to sleep with you.

- Every interaction should be sexual though not aggressive.

Problem
- we make long term promises on short term emotions

Job
- “I’m a treasure hunter, I’m on a mission.”
- “I give women pleasure”

- He loves the interaction/chemistry

- Stand up, be a man, be honest

- Understand what you want and be honest with her.

- Lots of compassion for women all the bad things and good things created who you are today. Maybe those bad things, if they never existed, would not make you who you are today. You were attractive enough for me to approach today. You get to choose your steps tomorrow.

- Choose from this day forward who you are

- Everything is a choice. I’m not reacting to things that happened in my past. Get rid of the people in your life that drag you down.

- Delight – If she’s not feeling like a queen. Then I’m not feeling like a King.

- Grace – Move through life with grace.

- He doesn’t work to get a girl, he wants girls who delight in life like he does.

Mike Lang is not known in the community because he’s a natural pick-up artist. He’s a comedian by trade who loves the ladies. He has definitely been around as he knows lots about the game without even reading The Game. Here are his notes:

Notes

- A response to an indirect rejection (where they say “that was the 8th worst pickup line ever”) would be, “Nothing wrong with raping a bitch.”

Rule
- As long as you mean well, which means you do things to others as you would want done to you
i. Jokingly flirting

Best Pickup Line
- If you’re at a gym, on the way out introduce yourself and leave. Then when you go back to the place you can say, “Hi” to that person and talk

- Think of it as a game, as a sport. You have to go at him.

- Never beg

- You’re there for her to laugh

- Think of it as a game, if you lose, who cares, you have three lives

- You go with aggressiveness and you’ll conquer

- Best opening line = “Hey”

- You have to believe that you can close it. If it’s rejection it’s still a close; it’s done and over with.

- After the opener think about what you have on that you can talk about

- Everytime someone opens their mouth they are telling about something important for them at that moment

- Let girl do 70% of talking

- After you’re done talking, elaborate on her answer. Go into only what she says.

- No “Yes” / “No” answers

- Ask: “What do you enjoy?” or “What do you like to do?”

- Best place for a first date
i. Comedy club
1. Cheap, comedians do work for you

- Group of girls opener
i. “Oh what does a guy have to do to get a kiss on the cheek around here?”
ii. Read the ugliest girls palm, give bullshit reading, then next ugliest, and then eventually the hottest girl will want you to read her palm.

Keys
- Got to have fun, and be sure of yourself
- When talking about something give value (i.e. smiles, laughter . . )
- It’s a game, just have fun, be aggressive, don’t mumble it, fucking say it.

Phrase to a guy who tries to dance with your girl at a bar/club
- “I am going to slit your throat and put battery acid down your throat”, then look at your buddy and say, “get the battery acid”. Just give ‘er.

Mixed group
- Harder, cause guys act territorial
- Go up to the guy and introduce yourself. And say “hey, what’s going on with these ladies?”

Buddy up
- best is to get a girl to go out with you

Sean Messenger was a participant on For Love or Money 2, an instructor PickUp101, and is now doing his own thing at http://seanmessenger.com. He’s the kind of guy who’ll tell it like it is, or make it seem like he’s telling you like it is. Here are notes from his seminar:

Notes

- He doesn’t give a fuck about the context of pickup

- To get an interaction going just start with a joke, and then go into your routine

He’s socialphobic
- Having one friend who’s also insecure is a disadvantage
- When he was a kid he stayed home and read lots about Greek mythology

- He saw himself as different from everyone else. He saw himself as an alien brought down to observe people

- What was missing was people. Women aren’t that different. Women are more skillful socially, and that’s what he lacked.

- The great thing about being a man is the powerful energy that women like. What gets you pussy is not the words, it’s the energy.

- A disadvantage to being a man is all the shit in the brain. We were rewarded for thinking when we were younger. Our brain is in the loop telling us that we are no good for anybody.

- Got into PickUp101 cause he was alone, even when he was with someone.

- Started with Match.com; he could sell anything.

- When the girl was gone he realized he had no life left. He didn’t care about anything. When she broke up with him, cause she got back with the ex and got pregnant and wanted to marry her ex.

- He realized his problem was not the girl, it was that he had no other people in his life.

- If you are nervous when picking up the phone, then you have a problem.

- What was missing was just to have people around.

- What happened with the girl was he called her and said, “I have a meeting and I don’t know what to say. What should I do?” He turned her into mom.

Steps to an interaction:
1. Introduce yourself.
2. Ask questions.

How do you maintain an interaction?
- Ask, pay attention, relate. Don’t try to be cool or try to impress someone
- Talk to people more

- You don’t need to impress them.

- There is a power dynamic in every interaction

- QUICKLY RELATE TO SOMEONE

How to make small talk
- “Hey How you doin’? My names ______. What’s your name?”
- It’s polite and it’s what people do. You give something of yourself and it gives you an opportunity to talk more.
- When meeting someone for the first time DON’T LOOK/FIND THE GREATEST QUESTION (i.e. what are you passionate about? That is inappropriate and not what people do) (“cool” kids are cool because they ask questions you listen and relate to.)
- When someone answers a question, DON’T get into your head and try to think of the next question. Cause you’re unable to hear what they are saying and thus unable to relate.

- EXPOSE YOURSELF.

- You learn piece by piece

- Get friends, get social networks.

- You may get away lieing for a day (SEE BRAVEHEART to see a leader of men).

- Women want a guy you leads men, has passion and goals

- IT’S IMPOSSIBLE TO BE A LONER AND GOOD WITH WOMEN

- Has a friend who is better with women than anyone known. He picked up a girl that everyone wants. Now she’s pregnant. He can’t be with a woman cause he’s afraid someone who is as good as him will take her away. He’s lonely cause he’s too good.

- You make yourself invaluable by being good with people. No one cares how smart you are. It annoys them. What they care about is how you make them feel (comfortable or ill at ease), cause people respond to their emotions. With social skills, breaking out of isolation will get you ahead.

- He has no social skills, he’s social phobic, which is what makes him a good teacher

- EFFORT, NOT EPIPHANY

- Don’t go from 0 to benching 500lbs, you’ll die. Start with small weight.

One of the funniest guys I’ve met is a guy named TwentySix. He was an instructor for Real Social Dynamics and Mystery. He’s still working in the financial field, but I hope he releases some products. Here are the notes I took from his seminar:

Notes

Girls like:
1. Mustaches
2. To sniff cocaine off a hard cock
3. For the man to literally bring home the bacon (actual bacon)

- There is no magic bullet
- He hopes no body is an epiphany seeker
- His philosophy is to take action
- You’re riding on a high in your head if you just think
- Just talk to girls (~3000+ girls)
- EXPOSE YOURSELF
- Push to the next level
- Worst thing – hit a high point and leave
- He’s still nervous talking to girls
- Most other people are insecure, unable to take a look at themselves, they are not in the now.
- He had OCD and was depressed and it really stunted him and screwed up relationships. This was happening while he was also trying to get better with girls
- If you have other issues fix those issues first
- Most people around you are no competition

- Humour
i. There is a difference between guy and girl humour. Girls not hot/not stuck up, you can be goofy (i.e. throwing bacon on yourself). Barry doesn’t go for stuck up girls. Barry likes putting bacon on himself, he doesn’t give a crap, and that’s what people like. Role-play, tease, and relax.

- Routines weren’t him cause by doing routines he was losing himself. Find yourself

- Phone numbers
i. Text messaging can replace first phone call, thus relieving stress. Over time after you bounce 4-5 messages and are goofing around, then that first phone call is a fuck of a lot easier. That first phone call is actually like a second call.

- For gum, go to religious store and get “Testamints”
i. Open with, “Would you like a Testamint?”
ii. Read parable on the back
1. Don’t do an act to them, cause it’ll be like you’re entertaining them
2. If you’re incongruent it’ll bomb
3. Rather than buying a new pack, cause they can be hard to get, just keep the box and stick a back of Dentyne in it

- How To Get Better Fast
i. It’s easy in a sense if you
1. Expose yourself.
a. Expose yourself to shit situations
b. Do things in public settings that make you uncomfortable. This will enrich yourself
2. Expose yourself
a. Go out more and talk to people; Mystery did this relentlessly
3. Suck some guys cock for a nickel

- Why Do Jokes Suck?
i. Lack of conviction
ii. Delivery is key. It’s how you deliver it.

(This is the point where he comes out in lingerie)

- Can You Control A Woman?
i. You can with the right mechanisms (i.e. Nintendo joystick on her vagina, so you can control it pressing B, B, A, Start, Select, Down, Up)
ii. A Second way to get more girls is:
1. Control The Frame
a. I.e. He’s walking around with lingerie and he’s confident from the source he’s coming from, where he doesn’t give a shit
b. Ignoring every fucking thing he’s saying
c. Keep going without laughing (during a joke) is keeping a frame
- Learning To Take Off A Bra
i. How he learned to take off bras was he and his buds they took bras off each other (60+ times (exposure))
Question & Answer
- How do you lay lots of girls?
i. Never focused on pushing to be more sexual, wanted to push interaction. He just focused on having fun and when sexual comes then go sexual.
ii. Conviction
1. Seinfeld looks comfortable in his own skin.
2. Come from a place that you are good at this
iii. Never look on past the moment
1. If you are looking at where to go next, you are taking yourself out of the fun
- One last thing to say to all the guys Barry?
i. FUCK OFF!



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