I read through some of your blogs and really enjoyed them. The short of
things is, would you like to contribute articles to our website? Perhaps
something like that could be utilized on our website. Please read more
below.

I’m the Marketing and Events Manager for Kizmeet and HurryDate (our parent
company Spark Networks is widely known for JDate and MingleMatch).

Our current traffic is very strong and of course we’d like to make it even
stronger. Through our very intensive marketing efforts we’ll only continue
to grow. We have advertisements on some of the largest love related
(dating, networking, mingling) websites in the world: JDate.com and the
MingleMatch.com companies, as well as the ubiquitous HurryDate.com.

Please go to Kizmeet.com and take a look through our “Press” section, and
you will find a myriad of fantastic press coverage from many different
mediums — very notably “E!”. We’ve also begun a vast number of guerilla
marketing initiatives, internet marketing, and more PR campaigning.

What we’d like to do is create another reason for people to come back to the
website — articles. The articles will be based on love, relationships,
dating, flirting. The “dos and don’ts”; the “how tos”; the “was he/she
flirtings?”; and whatever other great ideas come up.

The website offers a practical online way of searching for missed
connections, but it’s also enjoyed for the entertainment of reading other
people’s posts. Some people find the posts absolutely adorable, some people
find some of the posts to be humorous.

I’d like to find out if you’d be interested in cross-marketing. That is
sharing each other’s traffic; sharing each other’s content.

The increased traffic and the Kizmeet notoriety should help you secure
advertisements if that’s what you’re seeking; it certainly should help you
secure wider popularity as well.

Let me know if this is something that you feel can benefit your blog/you.

Sincerely,

Jason Hobbs, Marketing and Events Manager

No thanks.

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If you have any questions my e-mail is v [at] becomingapua.com

Hey V,
I’ve been following your site for the past year, since I have started becoming a pickup artist. What I’m about to tell you is pretty messed up but please, if you could offer any help at all, that would be great.
So anyways, about a year ago I started learning pickup techniques and within the first three months, I learned A LOT. I took my techniques with me everywhere, and after about 8 months, I could really get most any girl to be attracted to me but that wasn’t what I was in it for. I really wanted to find a girl. So anyways at about the end of May, I got fired from my job. There was a girl I worked with who was basically my best work friend. It was a retail store and we always worked together at the same register. I could always tell there was a little attraction between us. After I got fired she offered to hang out one day and we ended up hooking up. The next day we agreed that this what what we really both wanted, even though she had a man. I thought that I would be able to get her to leave her man after a few weeks. Well here it is, almost two months later and she’s still with him. She REALLY loves me though, everyone - her friends and mine - tells me so. we are really close and its almost like we’ve been in a relationship for years. now at this point you probably think that I was going all AFC on her, that’s not at all the case. I keep our attraction up and have been BF destroying since we started. We really love each other but apparently she loves her man too. She’s talked about him before and most of the time I cut her off saying “listen, I really don’t want to hear about your man anymore. I don’t care what you have to say about him. I know you love him, and you know I love you but not this situation”. Sometimes at night she cries about the situation telling me “Baby, you really don’t know how hard it is. I’ve been with him for the last three years and I’m trying, but I can’t seem to do what I need to do, but I’m really trying”. I always tell her I know it will be hard, but that its harder knowing that I’m being disrespected like this knowing she’s doing the same thing she does with me, to another man. This past Friday night was our worst moment yet. We went to a party together and were talking with people and then out of nowhere, some guy that we both used to work with (she still does) gave her a hug. I’m not really a jealous person so it wasn’t a big deal. Eventually her and I were just sitting together making out, and that guy kept looking over at us every 2 or 3 minutes. But that wasn’t bothering me, I still had her and he didn’t. But then, every 10 or 15 minutes he would come over and give her a hug. He did it when I would leave to go to the bathroom, get another drink, ANYTHING. So naturally we started talking about him. Eventually she told me something that really opened my eyes. She told me that about a month before her and I started, she gave him head. This made me mad because that was the third time that I’ve heard she cheated on her man. The next day, Saturday, before I went to see her, I started thinking. What if I’m no different? What if the only difference is that I haven’t left her yet. So I made the decision to make her choice - me or him. When I went to see her I told her what I just said and I told her to call me when she didn’t have a man. She broke down, and I left. Honestly, that night I cried. I don’t think I’ve ever cried over a girl before..EVER. I didn’t sleep or eat at all that night - that’s now much in love we were. So the next day I honestly couldn’t take it. I called her and we got back together. She came over my house today (Monday) and before I went to bring her back home I asked her to promise me something. Now before I tell you what it is, she told me a couple weeks ago that she hasn’t “been with” her man since we started. So today I asked her to promise me that she won’t sleep with him while we’re together. She told me she couldn’t promise me that. She told me that she slept with him Friday, after WE went to that party. That was MESSED UP. I was with her from about 11 in the morning to about 1 the next morning. She ACTUALLY told me she went to his house after I dropped her off. At this point I was shocked. I told her that I honestly have never felt so disrespected in my entire life. At that point I told her it was time to leave my house. Right now I have no idea what to do. I can’t live with her - I can’t do it alone. V, do you have any suggestions for me?

You want what you can’t have. You say that you could get “most any girl attracted to you”, but this ONE girl hooked you. This ONE girl is always on your mind, likely cause you can’t have her all to yourself.

Women LOVE security. Someone who just got fired from a retail job working at a register doesn’t scream security to most girls. I’m not making fun, I worked shitty jobs myself. Say if you won the lottery tomorrow, do you think she’ll leave her man for you?

One more thing you should ask yourself is, “Does this girl love me for who I truly am, or because of the man I pretend to be?” You say you’ve been using the techniques everywhere for the past 8 months, so I assume you’ve been using them around the girl (i.e. BF destroyers).

Answer those questions and if you’re still in need of help then send me another e-mail.

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If you, the reader, have a question then send an e-mail to v [at] becomingapua.com

One thing that frustrates me the most is when someone isn’t on time.

I used to think it was cool to be fashionably late. Now I see it as being stupid.

If you tell someone you’ll be somewhere at 7 PM then you be there at 7 PM. Your word is your word. Without it you’re nothing.

It doesn’t matter if you arrive before 7 PM, cause you’ll still be there AT 7 PM. When someone arrives after 7 PM with no life-or-death excuse then I just want to swear at them like there is no tomorrow, but that’s not acceptable in North American society.

There are two types of people that I have to deal with when it comes to them being late:

1. The first is family. If they’re late I’ll note never to trust them again when it comes to being on time, but I’ll suck up my frustration because they are family.

2. Everyone else. I’ll wait for up to 15 minutes and then leave. If I happen to catch them just as I am leaving then I’ll tell them, “Bye.” and still leave.

If I’m meeting a girl for the first time there are two benefits with her being late:

1. I know she has no respect for other people’s time.

2. She just freed up an hour of my time, which I would have spent being with her if she was ON TIME.

End of rant.

The moment we begin to fear the opinions of others and hesitate to tell the truth that is in us, and from motives of policy are silent when we should speak, the divine floods of light and life no longer flow into our souls.
–Elizabeth Cady Stanton

A common question I get is, “When is a girl giving me a shit test and what do I do?”

OK. Here’s an example and what to do in such a situation: When your target is drunk, touching her right hip with the forefinger on her left hand and asks “Hey, I just puked a little on my shoe, can you lick it off?” you tell her, “Right away master!” and lick away.

If you take what I said above seriously then I recommend you go stay home tonight and masturbate.

Understanding what shit tests are is important for new guys. If you don’t know what a shit test is I suggest you check out the Common Acronyms & Slang section at the Becoming A Pick-Up Artist Forums.

Once you’ve been around enough girls then you could care less about shit tests.

Say a girl gives me a shit test such as, “Buy me a drink”. I’ll tell her, “OK.” and I’ll get a glass of water. If I hand it to the girl and she refuses the water then I’ll take the water back and drink it.

If she is pissed about the drink and gives me a hard time then I’ll take her by the hand, say, “It was a pleasure meeting you.”, turn away from her, and open the closest group.

If you want to be an asshole all your life then refuse every shit test.

I accept or deny shit tests depending on the moment. I know when I’m being tested, but the girl can’t quite tell if I’m supplicating or if I’m being that “perfect” boyfriend.

She knows that I can leave her at any time, cause I tell her, but in a “nice” way. If she does give me a lot of guff then I’ll escort her out of my life. I just make sure to get a little loving before giving her the boot.

Here are my questions:

1. Do you think that beyond art, it all really boils down to “looks,” in other words, would a guy who is not as attractive as you probably are, have the same success? What are your thoughts on this?

2. Do you think it’s possible for you to fall in love with a girl friend? Have you ever had that experience?

3. Are you able to tell if a girl is faking an orgasm (how) and if yes, do you care? If you don’t care, why not?

4. What’s your take on marriage?

1. This is not a “Yes” or “No” question. First, what is “success” to you? A person living in the Playboy mansion that looks like Steve Urkel will have far more “success” than someone who looks like Christian Bale living alone in the desert. There are a multitude of other factors (i.e. the type of girls you like and the amount of them in your location, the age of girls you like, how low on the scale of attractiveness are you willing to go.)

2. When I think I’m “falling in love” I remember something from the 1997 movie The Devil’s Advocate:

Kevin Lomax: What about love?
John Milton: Overrated. Biochemically no different than eating large quantities of chocolate.

3. When you’ve given a girl a real orgasm you can tell when one is faking. I’d recommend you pick up some material on tantra and finding a girl you can practice with.

4. Marriage is just something that was introduced with religion. Religion and marriage are on their way out as you can see. Until you’ve truly found yourself I don’t think you should get married. If you don’t even know yourself then how can you know you’ve found “the one”? And no, you will not find your true self with religion, a spiritual movement, nor ANYTHING else that has rituals and/or routines.

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John asks:

Glad you’re back!

Which method do you think is better, the more natural Mystery method or the Ross Jeffries NLP approach? Also, once you’re on a date with a girl, what’s the best way to segue from casual conversation to making out with the girl?

John in Paris, France

Well the Mystery Method is more indirect while Ross Jeffries is more direct. If you’re more comfortable being indirect then go with MM, otherwise try Speed Seduction.

Going from conversation to kissing will have to depend on how you got into the conversation in the first place (direct or indirect).

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RockStarLand asks:

Hey V. It’s nice to see that you aren’t dead. How’s school going? You all finished yet?

Life is my school, and no, I’ll never be finished.

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Jason asks:

where the fuck did you go?

Mainly to my basement to play Rock Band … and some traveling

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b asks:

Is there such a thing as TOO much negging? I think I seriously pissed off a girl I sorta dig the other day by being mean. What do I do?

Yes. Hey, at least you got an emotional reaction from her. If you were an asshole then when you see her again forget like it ever happened and move on.

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Capablanca asks:

What’s up V, greetings from Mexico.
I’m happy you’re back.
I like your blog, a lot, it’s very inspiring.
I’m amazed about your fast and radical transformation.
I’ve decided to become a PUA too, but it will represent a radical change of life, since i have already a girlfriend, but God!, i’m bored of my life, i need a change. It’s hard you know?
I’m 25 years and I don’t wanna keep like this, need to move on. I’ve been 7 years with my girl, so its really tough.
Well, i guess i still don’t have questions, but if you could only give me some inspiring advices.
I respect you man, a lot. (Sorry about my English)
See ya!

Do not pursue what is illusory - property and position: all that is gained at the expense of your nerves decade after decade and can be confiscated in one fell night. Live with a steady superiority over life - don’t be afraid of misfortune, and do not yearn after happiness; it is after all, all the same: the bitter doesn’t last forever, and the sweet never fills the cup to overflowing.
-Alexandr Solzhenitsyn

It’s 5AM. Girl friend is sleeping and I can’t. I’m on the floor answering emails, surfing the net, and listening to the new Nine Inch Nails album Ghosts I-IV (amazing).

While surfing the interweb earlier guess what I found out!? TwentySix has his own seduction company!

TwentySix’s company is called revolution31. I don’t think the site is officially up since you can’t order anything and it’s a tad glitchy.

For those who don’t know who TwentySix is then let me suggest another name; Extramask from The Game. He was a trainer for Mystery and Tyler Durden and now he is training for his own company.

He’s an all around great guy. To get an idea of what he offers to can check out some his seminar notes I took.

If you want to be the guy everyone loves, and all the girls want to fuck, then keep your eye on TwentySix’s company.

It was a delayed announcement cause I’ve been snowboarding all yesterday and today. I rule the bunny hill!

Now I gotta get my sore ass back out tonight. Anyone know how to cover-up the paleness around my eyes where snowboarding goggles were once placed?

OK. March’s contest will be $100 of anything from Amazon. You can choose pick-up books, lube, a dildo, or whatever else may float your boat

Is it STD or STIs? I’ll stick with STDs.

Have I gotten down and dirty with girls who have STDs? Yes. Have I used protection? Hell yes!

Going commando inside an unknown juicy hole is not worth risking my life over.

For girls who I know will just be one or two fucks I’ll just wear a condom.

Girls I plan to have LTRs with I’ll go with them to the local medical clinic for testing. If they’re clean then I’ll go commando with them.

If a girl knows she has an STD, or finds out she has an STD, I’ll still have sex with her, but I’m wearing protection.

If you’re freaking out thinking, “There’s no way I’m having intercourse with a girl who has an STD.” Then reconsider.

It far safer to have sex with a girl who you know has an STD then having condomless sex with “The One”.

Know your hole. If she tests clean then get dirty. If she’s not clean, or you don’t know for a fact she’s clean, then stick a sleeve on it.

I come back from a pleasant vacation to find coldness from the weather and girl friends. Silly me, I didn’t mention my last minute trip to Cuba to some girl friends

My phone had messages from a couple girl friends. One was from a girl who got me a gift and wanted to know if I got her something. Today I met her and come to find she bought me some lingerie. Sadly for her to wear … I wanted my own lingerie!

I felt a little bad that I didn’t buy her something. We trekked over to the mall and played a game called $5 Fun. Basically I take her around to discount stores and try to find something for her that’s $5 or under before tax.

You take her around with you, cause it’s more fun that way, and find something that she loves. It doesn’t matter if it costs $5. What matters is she likes it. I was going to buy her some of these sparkles, but half the contents ended up getting blown out onto each of us and eventually ended up on the floor …

We ended up going to another store and find this retarded looking “Made in China” penguin. She likes retarded looking penguins I guess. … It was under $5 so good deal both ways.

Back to my place we went. My dad brought pizza home so we ate that.

After we fooled around for a couple hours with her gift.

She’s still here; watching Letterman. We’re going out. Her to meet her friends and me to meet anyone but her friends.

I gotta wet my hair down before I go out, it’s a mess. I haven’t had a haircut in three to four months so it gets out of hand, but with some water and lots of hair product I get it looking “stylish”.

Have a fun night guys!