Hey man,
Whas up?
Maybe you can help here…
Im a beginner, how should a person start NLP from beginning to the mastery?
any help is appreciated
Thanks!

NLP is the popular method these days, but I’d suggest you master Ericksonian techniques.

I’ve been reading a bit about Milton Erickson (which NLP is modelled after) and I’ve seen where many of these pick-up artist “gurus” have copied their information from. Erickson is dead on with so many of his findings, which have been well studied, that it’s a waste to learn much else.

Before you get all excited thinking you can become a master with ease I’d like to inform you that Erickson dedicated his life to his art. Are you willing to make a similar dedication?

If you are dedicated to becoming a master of linguistics one highly recommended book is The Wisdom of Milton H. Erickson by Ronald A. Havens. This book gives you the best quotes and analysis of Erickson’s techniques.

Read that book, model Erickson, master Ericksonian techniques and you’ll be a master over an NLP master.

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If you have a question you’d like answered then contact me at v [at] becomingapua.com

The moment we begin to fear the opinions of others and hesitate to tell the truth that is in us, and from motives of policy are silent when we should speak, the divine floods of light and life no longer flow into our souls.
–Elizabeth Cady Stanton

A common question I get is, “When is a girl giving me a shit test and what do I do?”

OK. Here’s an example and what to do in such a situation: When your target is drunk, touching her right hip with the forefinger on her left hand and asks “Hey, I just puked a little on my shoe, can you lick it off?” you tell her, “Right away master!” and lick away.

If you take what I said above seriously then I recommend you go stay home tonight and masturbate.

Understanding what shit tests are is important for new guys. If you don’t know what a shit test is I suggest you check out the Common Acronyms & Slang section at the Becoming A Pick-Up Artist Forums.

Once you’ve been around enough girls then you could care less about shit tests.

Say a girl gives me a shit test such as, “Buy me a drink”. I’ll tell her, “OK.” and I’ll get a glass of water. If I hand it to the girl and she refuses the water then I’ll take the water back and drink it.

If she is pissed about the drink and gives me a hard time then I’ll take her by the hand, say, “It was a pleasure meeting you.”, turn away from her, and open the closest group.

If you want to be an asshole all your life then refuse every shit test.

I accept or deny shit tests depending on the moment. I know when I’m being tested, but the girl can’t quite tell if I’m supplicating or if I’m being that “perfect” boyfriend.

She knows that I can leave her at any time, cause I tell her, but in a “nice” way. If she does give me a lot of guff then I’ll escort her out of my life. I just make sure to get a little loving before giving her the boot.

It was a delayed announcement cause I’ve been snowboarding all yesterday and today. I rule the bunny hill!

Now I gotta get my sore ass back out tonight. Anyone know how to cover-up the paleness around my eyes where snowboarding goggles were once placed?

OK. March’s contest will be $100 of anything from Amazon. You can choose pick-up books, lube, a dildo, or whatever else may float your boat

Who doesn’t know Zan Perrion? If you don’t know Zan then you don’t belong in the community. The guy is a modern day Casanova, but he considers himself a modern day Voltaire. Here are his notes on getting women:

Notes

- Why do we hesitate when we see a pretty girl walking towards us. We want to walk up to her and say, “Hi, I’m _____.” Why do we not do that? FEAR OF REJECTION.

- We are afraid she’ll reject us as a man. We feel she’ll validate our manliness.

- We’re conditioned. It hurts to approach.

- We could all draw, sing, etc. when we were four years old. In school we compare ourselves to others that we are not good enough.

- Everything you want, everything you desire is outside your comfort zone. If it wasn’t, we’d already have it.

- No matter what the girl says we turn around and say “I’m not tall enough, rich enough . . .? She doesn’t have to reject us. We’ve already rejected ourselves.

- We allow her to live rent free in our heads. We allow her to dictate our day.

- We’ve already rejected ourselves, she’s just agreeing.

- Most girls ask, “What do you do for a living?” to find out what we believe we are.

- We have the right to say hello to her. We are men. We stand on the earth.

- When asking girls, they say “Where are all the real men, men who believe who they are?”

- What kind of girls put men in LJBF (lets just be friends) zone? Trick question, we put ourselves in the LJBF zone. In the way we talk, stand . . .

- We feel, especially in North America, that we can’t show our sexuality cause it’ll make them uncomfortable.

- Women are desperate for men who know who they are, what they want, no resumption and how dare we take that away from her.

5 Categories Women Put Guys In:
1. Guy is giving me a creepy feeling
2. Completely indifferent
3. Guys nice. Friend zone
4. This guy is potential. Potential relationship
5. I could jump in bed with this guy

- He tells a girl right away what he wants, “I’m not like any man you’ve ever met, there is something about you, though I don’t know what it is.”

- Without neediness/clinginess

- You have a name and you didn’t think you have the right to talk to a girl?

- In your direct bloodline your relative carried a sword, and you’re afraid of talking to a girl?

- Women want men to approach them as sexual creatures.

- How does a woman know you’re honest? By telling them you’re honest. “I’m not going to just be friends with you, why look at you?”

- Guys who are good with women are cause they are at ease with themselves. We get to choose

- Opening line isn’t key. It’s approaching. You can never love women if you don’t love yourself. You can manipulate them but not love them.

- Women will only feel cheated if you misrepresented how long the relationship will be

- The goal is to have women as friends in your life.

- NEVER KISS AND TELL, cause it’s respect. You don’t have to worry about your reputation, but she does.

- The whole concept to him is that if you misrepresent yourself, you’ve cheated her (i.e. buying her affection)

- If a girl says, “Are you asking me out?” You say, “Of course I am, look at you.”

- Girls want guys who know what they want.

- LEAD! NEVER FOLLOW.

- It’s stating who you are without apology. Stand in your place.

- All women are your girls. You make that girl shine, cause that’s who you are.

- If they look hot, it’s a gift to you. Make them feel pretty, and they’ll never forget you

- Zan never approaches a woman with a goal of getting her on a date, #, etc. His goal is he likes pretty girls, you’re just in the moment with her.

- A phone # voluntarily given to you will mean she’ll answer

- Trust the process. The fact you know you’re a man. Cause you have the right

- Never respond to their challenge. They are fantastic at acting offended. Just say, “What are you talking about?” Laugh it off, play it off.

- Never dial yourself down. It’s your mission to make them feel beautiful.

- We are driven by our obligations (i.e. more money)

- Be pulled through life by a vision of what you want

- You don’t have to do anything

- Women like nice guys, cause they are so attentive.

- They don’t like clinginess of guys.

- We have no interesting life cause we choose not to. Never let a girl push you backwards.

- You’ll have women in your life if you believe that and it’s your choice.

- Decide today who you’re going to be, don’t cheat women out of it. That’s what women want in men.

Story
- He mentors guys all over the world. I don’t know how to escalate into sexual mode. He doesn’t do anything cause he’s there from the beginning. Cause he lets them know who he is. She’ll say, “I have a boyfriend”, you say “Of course you do, look at you.”
- When he talked to an engaged girl he knew she couldn’t go out with him and she knew he couldn’t go out with her, so he said, “I know, but isn’t it fun to think about?: Make her feel pretty and smile. You’ll get girls giving you #’s and begging them cause you make them feel alive.

- Respect them and have fun.

- I.e. “You look great in that dress.”

- Never defend. If she says, why did you leave me to talk to her, say, “Of course, did you look at her!?”

- Everything you do with a woman should be enormous fun. Smile and wink at everyone.

- Don’t be aggressive and presumptuous. You have to be sincere. ALWAYS BE HONEST. But always lie, but get caught in the lie. It should be fun, fun for you and her.

- Women are able to sniff out your motives from afar.

- Never mask your desires, without presumption.

- Doesn’t mean you’ll sleep with her, but emit that sexual energy.

- How do you break up with a girl? He never breaks up with a girl, he’s just not around

Two Tracks In A Woman’s Mind
1. Her desire for security, comfort, longevity, safety, children.
2. Just as valid and just as cirtical to her living. Passion, whirlwind, romance novels.

- Ideally she wants both tracks from one guy

- If she just has 1 track, she’ll seek out the 2nd track. It’s nature.

- Zan is a dreamer. He believes in women, and makes them believe in themselves.

- Women crave romance novels as much as they crave water and air.

- Take a woman on an emotional adventure. Cause everything in life is an adventure. It’s the concept of believing in adventure, cause they will too.

- Start with your intention. You won’t apologize for who you are. You have the right to be who you are.

- Why is it so important that the interaction is important? The opening line isn’t important. The thing that gives him the most fulfillment is the interaction with every girl. If you make the moment important you will get phone #’s and you will get girls wanting to sleep with you.

- Every interaction should be sexual though not aggressive.

Problem
- we make long term promises on short term emotions

Job
- “I’m a treasure hunter, I’m on a mission.”
- “I give women pleasure”

- He loves the interaction/chemistry

- Stand up, be a man, be honest

- Understand what you want and be honest with her.

- Lots of compassion for women all the bad things and good things created who you are today. Maybe those bad things, if they never existed, would not make you who you are today. You were attractive enough for me to approach today. You get to choose your steps tomorrow.

- Choose from this day forward who you are

- Everything is a choice. I’m not reacting to things that happened in my past. Get rid of the people in your life that drag you down.

- Delight – If she’s not feeling like a queen. Then I’m not feeling like a King.

- Grace – Move through life with grace.

- He doesn’t work to get a girl, he wants girls who delight in life like he does.

Mike Lang is not known in the community because he’s a natural pick-up artist. He’s a comedian by trade who loves the ladies. He has definitely been around as he knows lots about the game without even reading The Game. Here are his notes:

Notes

- A response to an indirect rejection (where they say “that was the 8th worst pickup line ever”) would be, “Nothing wrong with raping a bitch.”

Rule
- As long as you mean well, which means you do things to others as you would want done to you
i. Jokingly flirting

Best Pickup Line
- If you’re at a gym, on the way out introduce yourself and leave. Then when you go back to the place you can say, “Hi” to that person and talk

- Think of it as a game, as a sport. You have to go at him.

- Never beg

- You’re there for her to laugh

- Think of it as a game, if you lose, who cares, you have three lives

- You go with aggressiveness and you’ll conquer

- Best opening line = “Hey”

- You have to believe that you can close it. If it’s rejection it’s still a close; it’s done and over with.

- After the opener think about what you have on that you can talk about

- Everytime someone opens their mouth they are telling about something important for them at that moment

- Let girl do 70% of talking

- After you’re done talking, elaborate on her answer. Go into only what she says.

- No “Yes” / “No” answers

- Ask: “What do you enjoy?” or “What do you like to do?”

- Best place for a first date
i. Comedy club
1. Cheap, comedians do work for you

- Group of girls opener
i. “Oh what does a guy have to do to get a kiss on the cheek around here?”
ii. Read the ugliest girls palm, give bullshit reading, then next ugliest, and then eventually the hottest girl will want you to read her palm.

Keys
- Got to have fun, and be sure of yourself
- When talking about something give value (i.e. smiles, laughter . . )
- It’s a game, just have fun, be aggressive, don’t mumble it, fucking say it.

Phrase to a guy who tries to dance with your girl at a bar/club
- “I am going to slit your throat and put battery acid down your throat”, then look at your buddy and say, “get the battery acid”. Just give ‘er.

Mixed group
- Harder, cause guys act territorial
- Go up to the guy and introduce yourself. And say “hey, what’s going on with these ladies?”

Buddy up
- best is to get a girl to go out with you

Enjoy.

Notes

(Started with a yoga style warm up)

- Any desire is a form of insecurity

- If you’re looking to achieve something then you are insecure

- Relax into what you’ve always been. Then offer your true self as a gift.

- Your body is a resume to a woman

- Relaxed depth of being is most attractive to a woman

- First three times at anything you fail badly, though you might get lucky, then it’s less stressful after.

- You point to your heart to define you

- It’s in the moment, as you relax in that. That’s what everyone feels.

- You always attract someone as wounded as you’re putting out

- If you’re trying to achieve something, you are insecure, and you’ll attract someone as insecure.

- If you’re faking it, people will expect you to keep faking it.

- No one cares about you, except you, and you shouldn’t.

- Where your attention is is how people experience themselves.

- If you’re attentive on yourself, you’ll attract selfish women

- Mick Jagger is about the music, and giving it, not about him, not about his body, not about his aches, not about his age . . .

- Everyone wants a good show (happiness, love, etc.)

- Find out what you want, that when you die you’ll die complete.
i. What do you want to do before you die?

- Look at your friends and girlfriends, and that’s you

- You want a girl to see God through you

- You want the girl to worship you

- The 3rd step, stage of intimacy

The 3 Stages
1st stage – Dick suckers (do something wrong and she doesn’t suck your dick)
2nd stage – Fair (i.e. if you want me to suck your dick, you have to eat my pussy – business relationship)
3rd stage – Neither mutual relationship; not fair. IT’S I WANT TO OPEN SOMEONE TO GOD TONIGHT. (GOD being divinity) And in return I accept nothing but pain. You should feel like Jesus on the cross. When you walk into the club you know you’ll experience pain eventually. It’s mutual, true worship. We all worship women.

Gift
- “Graduation Day”
i. Difference is between the girl before meeting you and the girl after meeting you.

- The part of you totally trustable is what you give to women during sex

- Note: Giving GOD without expectation (she won’t give you the kudos’ you deserve)

- Women are built to show you where you’re holding your fear.

- If you need her approval you are already attracting those low level moments

- Find out why you want to be with women.

- Play around -> Finding the right girl(s)

- Good sex is open and intense that if you ever see the woman again you just breathe . . .

Masculine
- Be the awareness that is undiminished by the moments.i. 2 parts to a moment
1. You’re aware of this moment. You can see a chair; you’re not the chair. You are tired, but you’re not the tired. (Witness – I am here, not changing.)
2. Everything else – everything else except the witness (To be free of the pleasure and pain, during pleasure and pain)

- Your value as a MAN is your capacity to remain present no matter what happens.

- The capacity to remain present no matter if there is pleasure/pain

- Everything else that changes is the feminine

- Being here is the masculine

- That unflinching makes a man a man

- Fear doesn’t collapse them, them who are valuable in society

- Not fidget, collapse . . . that’s your value as a man.

- Feminine is move-ability and feminine value is ability to move

- We want a woman who gives you everything; LIFE.

- Masculine is that which does not move.

- Masculine = you
- Feminine = Everything else in the universe

My gift
- The sacrifice of myself for others

- When you’re fucking a girl what would you prefer in terms of value. A girl who is rigid and still, or a girl who is all over the place in pleasure?

- Guys drink to numb
- Women drink to express themselves

- Every fidget de-masculinizes you

- How much of your day do you want to here of her day, life, friends, etc?

- 3rd stage is making a relationship into an art form.

- In general, what kills a relationship is talking

Bomb Dropping Example
- A good warrior feels the bombs before they drop (i.e. fishing, you have to be sensitive to all the moments to catch the most fish. With picking up women, you have to be sensitive to any situation)

- Practice increased awareness by feeling the person on your left, on your right, people behind you. (i.e. Basketball players can pass to anyone on the court of their field sensitivity)

- David Deida said if he was a woman he wouldn’t date anyone in this room

- Any unconscious movement is bad

- All fidgets and movements make you unattractive

More Attractive
- Feel the space around you
- Sense your breathing

- To find out how much you trust someone think of the following. You have a huge business deal of all your life savings, would you trust that man?

Ask YOURSELF
- Do you trust yourself with someone’s life savings?

Women Are So Sensitive
- Keep feet straight
- Humour means presence
i. Think of a good joke, and a gun on your side ready to shoot anyone who gets in your way.

- You can learn to be the most trustable person in the world, but you have to be real.

- Women want to feel that your body is reflecting the real

- There is not better or worse men, there is better acting and worse acting men

- You get as much self-involved when you believe there are worse or better men.

- After your body goes you will know who you are

- You are always aware of the present, but how much are you expressing?

- Feel that you are dancing in your body, but you can kill the next person who gets in your way.

- It’s all a matter of being aware of the present moment.

- When you become more aware of your body you can express your glow.

- Laughter of human existence = slight smile

- Practice to real your glow.

- Guys awareness of presence changes, that’s why girls say, “I want this guy.” Then the next moment says, “I want this other guy.” That’s why girls don’t know what guy they want.

- Feel like your feet are rooted and feel that root

- ROOT YOURSELF SO YOU’RE A WHOLE BEING

- For 5-10 Minutes a day stand in front of a mirror, big erect dick and feel like everyone/you is going to die in the next ten minutes and sing and you can kill the person who walks in the door

- Twitches are feedback. No twitches if you’re ON

- Twitches are feedback that you are losing it

- We’d all go insane if we didn’t live in self deception

- Our mortality is so frail that we deceive ourselves so we don’t go insane.

- Loosening up your ass makes you less of a tight ass.

- Why not just lay in our excrement and die? If you just eat and masturbate, what is it about eating and masturbation that are so great?

- Relationships are important for you to live out your fantasies

- Your purpose is to live out your fantasy everyday of your life

- We want to experience power every day

- 1st stage man
i. I want to dominate this woman so I can feel good about myself

- 3rd stage man

i. express your fantasy and use it as a portal

- You only ignore who you are when you say “If only . . .”

- Sex and violence is on television cause they don’t live it out

- Yogic way to use masturbatory fantasy

- Only when you are living on your edge will you feel alive

- If you get emotional by movie types, then you have to do that (i.e. fighting movie; then box or do martial arts)

- Masturbatory Fantasy
i. Submissive woman
1. cause were not well fucked

- The cure is to trace fantasy to the root

- We fuck each other with our gifts. If you hold in your gift they become demonic, and thus a fantasy

- Multiple women
i. Infinitely attractive, there fore consciousness is infinitely attraction
(i.e. just walk into a bar/club and be conscious of your whole body, as well as everyone around you. Walk into a club and feel the whole room. If someone says, “Hi.”, look at them with depth but be aware of everyone else)

- Breathe = Lots of women
- Depth = Monogamy

- 3rd stage – worship you but will cut your head off if you bullshit

- A woman’s role is to prevent you from your purpose

- Every moment is an excuse to give your gift or not.

- Fuck society, I have to give this gift.

- Girls don’t have interest in his books. His books mean a lot, and it’ll hurt, he may weep, but he doesn’t need mommy. There is a part of him so desperate for her to acknowledge what he does. He knows this and goes back to writing another book.

- If she’s a good woman she won’t support you.

- If you need support for your gift then it won’t be as artful.

- They will support you in the extreme moments

- As soon as you REALLY REALLY don’t need her support will you actually get it, and you’ll get it without it going to your ego.

- If you do something big in the world, the world will try to resist you. The measure of your capacity is your ability to bash it down.

- The world is a big woman

- A woman is a concentrated version of the world.

- Take any great human being and you’ll see that they have been beaten down. When you win this game you die, you smile as you exit.

- Women help the process, especially with one woman. And she’s giving you what the world will give you, but in concentrated form.
i. It may take the world ten years to shit on you, but a woman will do that more often, and you will learn to get up and move on.

- What she wants to feel is, “I know what I want to do, join me?”, NOT “I don’t know what to do, will you help me?”

- Wealthy men and extremely beautiful woman have an extreme disadvantage of being real.

- Men friends are important to keep you in line.

- No one cares about your past, they care about being real.

- How to learn not to give a shit?
i. It’s like eating food, your body shits out stuff not needed, but keeps the nutrients.
ii. EAT THE WORLD, if you do it fully you will take it all in and then you’ll discover what you need to do before you die.

- Men don’t learn from other people’s mistakes very well.

- Always take everything in and then decide what you need to do to die complete.

Ask
1. Why do you want to talk to her?
a. A positive thing would be you have a gift to give her that’ll benefit the world. The negative thing would be for superficial reasons.

- Most of the fear is what’s going to happen you

- In stage 3 you’ll give your gift and possibly get nothing in return.

- Go to a club and give your gift you everyone, some will accept, some will reject

- What ever she’s doing, take it in.

- Take it all in, and still give your gift. (it’s a test or telling you something)

- Women are geniuses at finding out what weakens you

- Note: If she keeps going on and on then she’s a nagging bitch.

- As teenagers we should learn to play

Football Example
- Say you’re playing football and you don’t know the rules. You get the ball, and everyone starts trying to tackle you and you say “Why are you trying to tackle me!?” WELL THAT’S THE GAME!

- You can connect to God without women (meditation/yoga), or through women.

- If she attacks your core and you tell her, “I love you”, it’ll unravel her.

- Women forget the moment

- If you can take fear away from sexual life you have more sex.

- Deida went from white clothed meditating pure type to Jack Daniels, steak eating, 5 women fucking for ten hours.

- Fucking around and not living about your fantasies relives the 60’s and results in what he have now, and that is not a good thing

- You don’t win life, you out grow life

- Yogic – dick is the root to your heart

- Every woman wants your soul, that communion.

- Look into her eyes, see her heart, breathe with her . . . and there is a point when breaths are in sync. Then invite her to touch you by feeling her touch you.

- 90% of game is synchronizing breath.

- Don’t go soft, RELAX into pure awareness

- Say “Hi!” from pure awareness.

4 Steps to Opening a Girl
1. Feel deepest purpose
2. Rest in deepest purpose
3. Find gift to give her and open her heart with your gift
4. Then say, “Hi!” in pure form.

- All women feel the negative and positive, they just don’t say it.

- Depth means relaxed, humourous, open, and free.

To Be More Masculine
- Know your purpose
- Breath deeply
- Root yourself
- Stop fidgeting

- It’s tough at first, and it takes effort, but after it’s easy cause you live it.

- During sex, that every moment you are disconnected from the moment you’ll get a negative response all the time

- “Uh”, looking down, fumbling is not masculine.

- Quality women are rejected from the beginning

- The heart adds something to the vocal tone.
i. Tone, no clamping down
1. fix the vocal tone by laughing (taking yourself too seriously)

- connect the hearts for adding something to the voice

- They can feel when you’re lying. They can feel more about you, then you can feel about you.

Enlightened Sex Manual
- He practices many hours a day by himself
- You’re responsible for how you affect others
- When you get really good you will find things about her that she doesn’t even know, and you have to step up to continue with the girl, so people don’t get hurt
- When you get good you don’t need to find someone, you have to eliminate them
- What do you have to give to a woman before you die?
i. Your gift

- If you went to a club and breath in three ways, fill the space with your consciousness, conscious of your entire body, and any body that comes near you, and giving your heart to everyone.
- You attract any woman that your attention is on (i.e. if you spend most of the time thinking about pleasure, you’ll attract pleasure. If you focus on your deepest gift you’ll attract women who want your deepest gift)
- What counts to women is not what you say, it’s how you say

- If your heart is disconnected from your purpose, your heart will be rated low on a scale of 0 to 10.

- Look at someone while saying it, and think of how you would say something to that person if you were with them.

- Women are about love and giving love.

- Women want to feel your whole body is into your purpose

- Slow down tempo so it’s like a dance to get them involved, NOT pushing it on them

- You claim the woman you want to claim and you make that claim known to them in delicious ways

Exercise
- Stay present by counting your breaths 10 minutes a day, and if you are not conscious then slap yourself.

- More presence = more attractiveness

- Chatting brings you about in your head

- Find your deepest purpose and express it

- Attractiveness
i. So present you can fall asleep
1. show humour though also show that you could kill them if they get crazy

- When talking mix in humour, killing ability, and that you are better than others, that you could get any woman you’d want.

- Presence changes all the time

Best presence
- Feet parallel
- Relaxed jaw
- Breathing in belly
- Thinking you could have any woman
- That you are humourous though you could kill them
- Shoulders back
- Relaxed body/movement
- Relaxed face
- Gaze at the horizon

- When talking, talk direct, at a relaxed pace and the tone that you are better than them

Ways To Improve
- NO “I think . . .”
- NO “Uh”
- NO hesitation
- NO low, insecure
- NO in your head
- Think before you speak
- Relax
- Breath, focus on your breath as breath is life, and your life is most important
- No fighting
- Presence = attractiveness (be more present)

- When you’re tired is when you need to practice, that’s when you push yourself

- When tired do 10-15 minutes of breathing exercises

- Weight training and yoga are great mixes

- Stage 1 women go for guys who are rich cause they assume wealthy guys can get through life’s objectives.

- Stage 3 women, if she had a choice between a nonwealthy man in the present and a wealthy man in the present, she might choose wealthy, though you never know.

Review

- You walk into a room and see an incredibly attractive woman, why are you attracted?
i. Light
ii. Radiance
iii. Life

- Women are valued based on Light, Radiance, & Life

- What makes you attractive is consciousness, presence and attention.

- She is NOT attracted to light, radiance, and life

- If you want a woman with light, radiance, life then you have to give consciousness, presence, and attention

- Money is sexy cause it’s an example of consciousness, presence, and attention

- Henry Kissinger was voted sexiest man of the year 5 times, and he’s ugly. It’s cause he has consciousness, presence, and attention

- Stage 1 women want $ and status
- Stage 2 women want humour, intellect
- Stage 3 women want consciousness, presence, attention in the purest form (fearless sensitivity that you are willing to take anything without flinching)

- Stage 1
i. Needy men try to make lots of money cause then they think people would like them (i.e. I need $, attentive women . . .)

- Stage 2

i. Dependence (I don’t need . . . )

- Stage 3

i. What can I give before I die?

- Good women want stage III, though they would go after a guy with all stages

- Maturity in a woman determines her stage #

- Nothing wrong with money, master it and move beyond money. Though you can be a monk, and not have a need for $.

Artists
- Stage 1
i. Art for attention
ii. Art for money
- Very few artists in stage 3

- The stages are a development

- Women mirror you, if you are a stage 1, she’ll lie to you, steal your money

- Light attracts consciousness

- If you’re in 3rd stage, you’ll induce 3rd stage in people

- It’s all our responsibility to be 3rd stage, every moment we’re not makes the world a dumber and darker place.

- It takes a woman one second to pick the most conscious/present/attentive man

- How you walk, talk, standing, breathing, looking at horizon

- Man can pick out most radiant girl within three seconds

- Life = Responsiveness

- If body doesn’t show depth of man, the tone of voice can

- Gum chewing turns stage III women off

- Genuine smile from heart gives you a 10

- Way predominately men and predominantly women people learn are completely different

- To Deida, everything is an exercise.

- Look into the persons left eye.

- Women doesn’t want you to practice on her, even if it is practice

- Feminine is the water, and masculine is the container. You’re the container, she’s the water. You direct the flow of the river, but she has the power. It’s your job to be the stage 3 container

- If she’s bitching
i. Stage 1 guy will just leave and come back later (i.e. have a beer and get back to her later)
ii. Stage 2 guy will listen but have attention on other things
iii. Stage 3 guy will do the following. She goes “Blah, Blah, Blah” and in your heart you find out how to open her to God, the mystery of life. (i.e. you might nod and then dance her around, and if she gets pissed say, “God, I love it when you’re angry” <- Digest her emotions. Stage 3 is opening her through the gaze and breathe (how can you open her in this moment <- it’s an art)

- Don’t encourage a woman to be more feminine

- Relax her into amore feminine place than she’s at

- It’s NOT always true that a woman has to be more feminine to be more happy, they can add a little more masculine to their life

Energy
- Everyone has masculine/feminine in their body
- It’s up to you to take over the masculine.

- Anytime a woman is acting helpless she’s playing with you.

- You should play both masculine and feminine sides, if not you’re half a person

- A FREE MAN is someone who can have a bunch of sub personalities and not worry about them.
i. Stage 1 Man goes to many sub personalities
ii. Stage 3 Man doesn’t give in.

- You can’t serve someone else and find there self if you cant find your own.

- Instead of saying “Where do I go”, you say “hmmm, I have all these personalities, what gift do I have to give?”

Stage 3
- Giving gift regarding your depth through sub personalities. Gift through meditation. Gift through fucking.

- “Just roll with it”

- Give gift through sub personalities

- As any artist knows, it’s the flaw that makes the art

- Michael Jordan was not a balanced human being, he gave it through his kink

- Dance in the wound

- You give your pain through a gift to others

- Build and lose, build and lose, build and lose

- “Yea, I won’t even work with a business partner unless he’s been bankrupt twice.” <- that’s how you have to be sexually and financially.

- Maturity is when you can be rejected and move on.

- You have to fail repeatedly to get the big success

- This bodily reaction of failure came from school and getting good grades

- FAIL IN LIFE

- The bigger game you play, the bigger your losses.

- All this is grounded in enlightenment

- Enlightenment is in this present moment, in light, consciousness, and fucking

- This moment

- Enlightenment is NOT knowing it intellectually it’s breathing it, living it. This moment. Yogic sex is one person giving life and one giving consciousness.

- You need friends so you don’t delude yourself

- When you’re ready a teacher will come

- Playing around with sex and drugs is like masturbation, and you need someone to get you out of it

- Sensitize yourself to internal, flow of light for masturbation

- We’re on a spiritual quest, through women, just take it further, and grow women to stage III by giving your gift.

Anyone who likes to party has strained their voice when trying to talk over loud music. I still do when I don’t warm up.

When starting out in this game I would push my voice to the limits. I thought it was normal to barely be able to talk at the end of the night.

I’d only get about a solid 30-minutes before my voice would need soothing from ice cubes. After a long period of this I decided on getting some help.

I read ebooks and watched videos on how to project your voice. They would say to breath into your gut and use all your breath. That’s true, but there’s more too it for the introvert like myself.

Before getting into this game I’d rarely use my voice for more than daily conversation. Subconsciously, as well as consciously, I wasn’t built to project my voice for extended periods of time. It wasn’t until I went to a vocal teacher where I would learn techniques tailored to my voice and body.

One area that hindered my ability to project my voice was the love of a 6-pack. Having a 6-pack hinders your voice as your abdominal muscles are tight. Your abdominal area needs to be relaxed in order to take in air required to project. Why do you think fat guys like the late Luciano Pavarotti are great Opera singers?

Now I’m able to project my voice without much conscious effort. One thing that’s mandatory for loud clubs is warming up. If I don’t warm up then there is a high chance that I’ll be hurting at the end of the night.

If you have trouble getting your voice heard over the loud dance music then I recommend going to see a vocal trainer. I just went for a couple classes, enough for me to recognize what I’m doing wrong and determine the answers.

If you can’t afford a vocal coach then here are 6 tips for you:

• 1. Warm it up. In a club you are using your voice in the extreme. When a weight lifter is about to life 700 lbs he doesn’t just jump in and lift it. He warms up and stretches. You need to warm up and stretch your vocal cords. Get a bunch of music that has low tones and high tones and sing or hum to it. Many stage performers will warm up for an hour before performing. Now you don’t have to warm up that long, though it wouldn’t hurt.

• 2. Keep your head up. By lowering/lifting your head you collapse/outstretch your throat. This causes discomfort and doesn’t allow the maximum flow of air through your throat. If you have to look down/up then take a step back so you just have to use your eyes to see them.

• 3. Breathe from your gut. Your gut can hold lots of air. This will give you all the air you need to talk.

• 4. Use the air you have. Do not hold back on the air you have. Just let it out.

• 5. Breathe. Don’t strain out the last ounce of air you have. When you’re talking and you feel your air reserves getting low, stop, breathe, and continue talking.

• 6. Relax. When you tense up it means that you’re fighting against what you want to do. You want to project, don’t fight it. Let it go and let it flow.

One thing my friends and I can’t stand are people too into themselves. They tend to have the belief that they are somehow better than others.

Those types of people, and there are many of them, don’t understand that they are just like everyone else; an organism functioning in an environment. They are NOT a “personality”.

The issue with most is with the way we think. We don’t know how to stop the way we think. When you get a burst of emotion, rather than letting it flow, you’ll suppress it. When you accomplish something great, you won’t pat yourself on the back, you’ll be modest or “Thank God”. When you think and behave in that ill way you maintain your personality.

“When the wrong man uses the right means, the right means work in the wrong way.”
-Old Chinese saying

A basic mistake for beginner pick-up artists is that they’ll confuse the system they’re using (i.e. Mystery Method or Speed Seduction) with the actual world. It’s similar to people who confuse money with wealth; they work hard to make a lot of money and then they don’t know what to do with it.

We confuse ourselves, living organisms, with an personality. That personality could be the one society has forced upon us or one we’ve given ourselves.

What I understand as “V” is not really me. The image of “V” doesn’t have all the processes that make up me as a whole. Was my brain constructed to contain the concept of “V”? When I say, “My name is V” I do not make the mistake that I AM “V”. If I did then I would generate confusion with myself. It’s like saying you can wrap a present with the ozone layer. The ozone layer a nice concept but you can’t do anything with it.

Most believe that the personality exists. From a young age we’ve been told what to do, even if it was against our own interest. Those external forces created tension with our internal forces. So that feeling of tension has been fastened with the concept of “I”.

How can you give up your personality? Well the personality doesn’t exist. In order to rid yourself of the it you have to let go of the tension.

When you remove the tension you become aware of everything inside as well as outside of you; the blood flowing through your veins, your breath, the trees moving with the wind, and the hot chicks walking right by you every day.

By being aware you realize your body is able to adapt, both internally and externally.

Sequoia asked me to do a post on my alone aame. I will do that, but first I recommend you check out his awesome alone game post on the Forums.

Since beginning my pick-up journey I’ve gone out by myself. Because I don’t have a car, I have to find another form of transportation. I could befriend people for rides but I don’t like the guilt that comes from doing that.

My mode of transportation, when weather permits, is my bike.nI’d put all my nice clothes/shoes/goodies in a backpack, bike downtown, and change behind some transport trucks. When I bike to the bars I’ll bike home from the bars, but with solid numbers. I don’t want to be spending $20 a night on cab fare just to bring a girl home for sex.

Since it’s winter I now borrow my dad’s car.

When I started going out I was awkward. I was shy, but I wanted people to feel excited around me (bad mindset). I found that by wearing some clothes that REALLY stood out would help, but if the night was slow then I’d look like a clown just walking around the bar, which would often happen. When I did see a girl I liked I would put on a big retarded smile, approach, convey that I’m important, and all this other crap. That would leave it to HER to make the ultimate approval decision. Fuck that.

My attitude now is “fuck it”.

My “fuck it” attitude wear consists nice dark jeans, dressy top, nice dressy shoes, hair in a professional manner.

I’ll drive downtown and warm my voice up to some music. When I go around the downtown/bars I’m calm, cool, and collected.

I know the bar/night patterns enough that there will always be a girl for me to approach. When I find a girl I like I will approach her, but I take the situation as a factor. If that means I have to open a set beside her before approaching my target then I will.

I’m not at the bar to dance around and entertain people like a jester. If I just wanted drunk sluts then I wouldn’t be learning pick-up. I’m there to find some great girls to bring into my life. If I have to entertain them, or convey myself that I am “important” then they’re not so great.

So that gives you an idea of how I approached my alone game before, and now.

If you have any alone game questions for me then just comment here.

I checked the modeling convention itinerary and found out that it’s sooner than expected. I thought it was at the end of October, but found out that it’s October 5th to the 7th! I have to amp up my dieting and exercising before then.

I’ve been studying the art of the runway walk.

When modeling on a runway you have to model the clothes, not yourself.

In order to model the clothing you have to walk a certain way:
- Take steps about 3 feet apart
- Add some booty shake to your walk
- Have your shoulders back with chest out
- Move your arms using your back (do not swing your arms)
- Give your hands a curl (do this by touching your middle finger to your thumb and then relaxing your hand)
- Give your head a slight downward tilt
- Eyes forward
- Walk with purpose and attitude

I’d like to have a cut body when modeling a bathing suit. I will have to reduce my carbs and up my protein. The only carbs I will have are post-workout. My post-workout nutrition will come from honey. The rest of my diet will consist of soy/rice protein and vegetables.

Add to that some bronzer

I am putting lots energy into this, but I’m not doing this just for the convention. Dieting and learning the “bitch walk” allows me to better understand my body. If I get noticed at the convention then that’s icing on the cake.