Becoming A Pick-Up Artist

Ean B. asks:

Hey V,

I’m another fan of your website. I was just wondering, what’s your take on meeting girl friends online?

I have a more specific example. Truth is, I’m only 15. I’m trying to get the art down early so I am an experienced pick-up artist by the time I hit college, when it’s really going to matter. I’ve met some girls I might be interested in online (not through a dating service of course, just through perusing forums and through networking sites) and I have always been at a loss at how to correctly handle the situation. Any advice on this subject would be much appreciated.

I find that meeting girls, between ages 18 and 25, from the Internet too easy. I’m 23 so I prefer to meet girl friends in real life, cause I can approach a wider array of women in real life than a 15-year-old could.

If you want experience then you want quantity, not quality.

Being that you’re 15 I’d recommend the following:

- Use the Internet (i.e. Facebook, myspace . . .) when finding girls to date. It’ll allow you to find many girls around your age with ease.

- When it comes to cold approaching I’d recommend the street. Approach everyone (guys, girls, young, old, black, white) and introduce yourself.

With approach and dating experience you’ll be more than ready when you get to college.

Once you’re in college, and of legal drinking age, then focus on finding dates in the real world and less on the Internet

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If you have any questions my e-mail is v [at] becomingapua.com

Chris C. asks:

awesome stuff on your site first off. I read, watch and listen to seduction material every single day.I’ve made progress yet….I still don’t approach, sarge or talk to women. I have very low self esteem and although I feel that I have made progress it’s not enough to get me talking to strangers, trying material or going out and sarging. I feel that If I had friends that were into this stuff I would be more inclined to actually sarge. How do you recommend I meet other AFC’s or people willing to give me some first had knowledge in my city Northern Virginia/Washington D.C that are willing to sarge with me? I have hit up everybody in my geographical area on fastseduction MASF but have gotten no responses except one dude who claims to be a level 5(website rating of himself) PUA but hardly goes out sarging anymore.

The ability for you to approach, sarge or talk to women is within you. Refrain from worrying about finding other guys who are into this material, cause it’ll likely result in a mental circle jerk.

If you HAVE to go out with other people then find regular guys who just go out to have fun.

It seems that you read, watch and listen to seduction material everyday just for mental masturbation.

Stop watching, reading and listening to seduction material until you have approached 100 different women.

Why? Cause it’ll get you out of your conscious (logical) mind and into your unconscious (creative) mind.

You seem to be stuck in your conscious mind (i.e. “Ah yes, that is the perfect routine to get a one night lay. Yes! Imagine the girls I could get by using it …).

When you’re stuck in the conscious mind then you can’t use your unconscious mind to it’s full potential.

If your unconscious mind can keep you breathing and keep your heart beating then I think it can handle a conversation with an attractive woman.

Stop thinking and start doing. You’ll learn more about yourself and develop a way of approaching and meeting women that fits you.

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If you have any questions my e-mail is v [at] becomingapua.com

Jamie asks:

hi there i was wonder which books are good to get i am after a few things such maybe a book of tricks or mind test and nlp i was thinking something a bit like Darren brown any good recommendations Jamie

First I’d suggest you focus on learning grammar and spelling. What good is it learning about linguistics and persuasion when you can’t even construct a proper sentence?

On writing proper sentences get The Elements of Style, Fourth Edition.

When it comes to spelling get a good dictionary. I prefer The American Heritage Dictionary of the English Language, Fourth Edition.

If you want to be like Derren Brown then get his book. It’s called Tricks of the Mind.

To understand how to influence others you should check out Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion.

For an NLP book check out NLP: The New Technology of Achievement.

The above book recommendations are just introductions. Once you get through those then study the people Derren Brown studied (i.e. Banachek).

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If you have any questions my e-mail is v [at] becomingapua.com

Solidscore asks:

Hey V,

I recently found your website and I’m really intrigued by your 50 woman “wanna fuck” challenge. I’ve had some pretty good success with women lately, but when I was reading how that experience affected you, I felt like there’s something that you gleaned from the experience that I’d really benefit from. Soooooo, I’ve decide to do it, and I’d like to do it as quickly as possible. Are there any tips you could give me, or just talk shop with me a bit about it? I’m unsure as to where to go to do this, could you suggest some places? Also, when you did it, did you approach groups, or girls with guys? I could see the latter being a problem in particular especially because some dudes just get shit crazy when they’re threatened and turn super aggressive, so obviously I can see the inherent risk of that, but maybe that’s a good growing experience. I know a lot of this just comes down to common sense and personal judgment, but if you could shed some light that will help me gain the most from the experience I’d really appreciate it. Thankyou so much in advance, and for your time in reading this.

Solidscore

PS- I’ll write back to tell you how it went.

For those who have no idea what Solidscore is talking about just go to this post.

If you are well known in your city, or have a respectable position that you don’t want to screw with, then go to another city to perform this.

I’d suggest a local University/College when performing this, cause of the concentration of hot girls. If something should go wrong then go to another building and the girl(s) you had issues with are likely to graduate in 1 to 4 years.

BUT since you want to get this over with quickly, and it is summer, then go to malls and/or festivals and/or bars.

When it comes to who to approach then, again, use common sense. I’m decent in getting out of situations when someone gets irate so I’d approach anyone EXCEPT couples (got to have SOME respect) and girls with relatives (you’re asking for it if you approach a girl with her father).

You don’t have to do all 50 in a single day. You can do 5 a day for 10 days and just approach girls who are alone.

The great thing about this is that, afterwards, approaching girls becomes A LOT easier.

Let me know how it goes.

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If you have any questions my e-mail is v [at] becomingapua.com

Jason Hobbs asks:

I read through some of your blogs and really enjoyed them. The short of
things is, would you like to contribute articles to our website? Perhaps
something like that could be utilized on our website. Please read more
below.

I’m the Marketing and Events Manager for Kizmeet and HurryDate (our parent
company Spark Networks is widely known for JDate and MingleMatch).

Our current traffic is very strong and of course we’d like to make it even
stronger. Through our very intensive marketing efforts we’ll only continue
to grow. We have advertisements on some of the largest love related
(dating, networking, mingling) websites in the world: JDate.com and the
MingleMatch.com companies, as well as the ubiquitous HurryDate.com.

Please go to Kizmeet.com and take a look through our “Press” section, and
you will find a myriad of fantastic press coverage from many different
mediums — very notably “E!”. We’ve also begun a vast number of guerilla
marketing initiatives, internet marketing, and more PR campaigning.

What we’d like to do is create another reason for people to come back to the
website — articles. The articles will be based on love, relationships,
dating, flirting. The “dos and don’ts”; the “how tos”; the “was he/she
flirtings?”; and whatever other great ideas come up.

The website offers a practical online way of searching for missed
connections, but it’s also enjoyed for the entertainment of reading other
people’s posts. Some people find the posts absolutely adorable, some people
find some of the posts to be humorous.

I’d like to find out if you’d be interested in cross-marketing. That is
sharing each other’s traffic; sharing each other’s content.

The increased traffic and the Kizmeet notoriety should help you secure
advertisements if that’s what you’re seeking; it certainly should help you
secure wider popularity as well.

Let me know if this is something that you feel can benefit your blog/you.

Sincerely,

Jason Hobbs, Marketing and Events Manager

No thanks.

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If you have any questions my e-mail is v [at] becomingapua.com